The " In-Laws " Mindset

My friend is exploring with the idea of inviting me to conduct a seminar on how to resolve the " In-Laws " problem recently. A seminar which I have never come across or heard before. I believe this is a very interesting and taxing program which requires the facilitator to handle two group of "extremists"! My friend told me that a very high no. of his clients and the employees of his clients are having the "In-Laws" problem. Either the parent-in-laws are not in good term with their son/daughter-in-laws or vice versa. I told him I really need to think through carefully and do some serious research before I can either accept or decline his invitation.

Frankly, I do observe and agree with my friend that there are many " In-Laws " problem nowaday. Below are two recent real cases of "In-Laws" problem :

Case no. 1.

Recently, I came to know that my aunty is facing this type of "In-Laws" problem. Her daughter-in-laws cannot see her eye to eye and refuses to stay together with her. The daughter-in-laws demanded her husband ( the only son of my aunty ) to move out from his parent house. Being the only son in the family who has played his part well to take care of his parents, my cousin brother is caught in a dilemma situation now. On one side is his parents whereas on the other side is his beloved wife! My cousin brother's wife does not want her husband to divide his love and attention between her and her in-laws. My aunty feels that her daughter-in-laws is instigating her son to leave them.

Case no.2

A few days ago, one of my friends told me that his wife was complaining to him that she cannot tolerate with his mother anymore. She told my friend his mother is a real "busy body" and is controlling her life unnecessary. She feels very irritated and annoyed with this type of "CONTROL". As she is the only daughter in her family, she was given total freedom to do whatever she likes before she married to my friend. After her marriage, she is now under what she considered as under the the control of her mother-in-laws. She can't get used to this type of lifestyle. She told my friend to tell her mother to stop all these crap or else she will have to say goodbye to my friend forever.

Oh! What a "SUFFERING" world they are living in now? What had happened to this beautiful, wonderful and peaceful world? I remember someone told me this before,"War begins from the HUMAN mind and War can only be stopped by The HUMAN mind"!

Well, I am not in a position to comment who is wrong or who is right as I do not know the actual situation. I can't be listening to only one party's view! What I feel is that there maybe some differences in principle and value in the above cases.

May all beings find time to calm down themselves so that they can have a clear mind to find the right process to achieve their defined happiness!