" Human Beings Are Saddists ?! "

I do not know what to say when I heard one of my friends said that " Human Beings Are Saddist!". Well, what was in my mind at the time was this question : Is it true?

Anyway, I do notice that whenever we see someone making any mistake, we will laugh! Just take an example of the show " Mr Bean ". Why people laugh when they see Mr Bean making mistake or silly act! Is it that they are happy???? I really do not know the reason behind! Can anyone enlighten me on this? Why should we be happy when we see others making mistake or fail in whatever they do?

Whenever there is War, the winner will be very happy when they see that their opponent has been defeated! When in business, the businessman will be very happy to see their competitors fail in their business! When there is any sports competition, the winning party will be very happy to see that their opponent is defeated. It seems finding others' mistakes or weakness is the most happiest thing for us in this world!

I understand that there are always two sides of a coin. However, do we need to be very happy when we see others fail?! I do not have the answer. Anyone can share your views?

What An Unclear Mindset?

A few days ago, I read from the newspaper that some religious fanatics had carried out the arson attack on the places of worship of other religion. I am deeply sadden by the incident.

I remember many many years back I came across a saying by a wise man i.e " you can destroy the place of worship of a religion, however, you can't destroy the religious teaching as they are in heart and mind of the devotees!". I pity the building! Hahaha.....

If we are unhappy or unsatisfied over any issues, it would be better for us to find out the causes of the problem rather than to release our frustration and anger on the buildings, tables, chairs and so on. I believe if we can clearly define our problem, we can find the causes of our problem, and if we can find out the causes of the problem, we can definitely find a solution to resolve the problem.

We are human, we have a mind, we are not like the dogs and cats where they can't think rationally. We should engage our mind power to resolve problem. We should not let our emotion to control us!!!

Any different views? Please share.

"Thoughts", "Words" And "Action" !

" May I be free from enmity
free from ill-will and un-trouble
may I keep myself happily
may I keep myself happily ...................

May all my neighbours be free from enmity
free from ill-will and un-trouble
may they keep themselves happily
may they keep themselves happily................

May all beings be free from enmity

free from ill-will and un-trouble
may they keep themselves happily

may they keep themselves happily! "

I heard someone reciting this wonderful verses this morning. I believe if all of us were to recite this verses SINCERELY and MINDFULLY ( that is with full concentration and the awareness of what you are reciting ) every day, the world will be a much better place for us to stay!

Well, I believe some people may be asking why the above verses start from " May I be free from ..... " and not from " May we be free from...... "? I believe this is a very good and valid question! Some school of thought think that this is rather selfish! However, there are also some school of thought think that we should practise : "It Begins With Me! ".

Anyway, I believe the main focus here is not on whether the verses should start from " May I be free from ...... " or " May we be free from........ ". The main focus should be on whether the person who is reciting the verses is really sincere and mindful about what he or she is reciting!

A good question for reflection : " How many of us really align our thoughts and our actions ? "

The " Idealistic " Mindset!

Many people think that when they have enough money, then they will only have time to sit down and enjoy life with their children. Do you agree with this type of assumption?

As for me personally, I do not agree with the above statement! Based on the above statement, the very first question that comes to my mind is : " How much is enough? ". As we are all aware, the level of "enough" is not the same for everyone! I have seen many friends when they are in financial difficulties, they told me they just need a little bit of financial assistance then they will be very happy! However, when financial assistance had been provided for them, their desire of getting more become very intense! Their unhappiness re-appear and they put themselves back into a miserable life! I really do not know why some people like to jump into the " cycle of suffering ". From one type of suffering jumps into another type of suffering! I believe our non mindfulness of watching our mind can really create a lot of miseries for ourselves!

I have come across many hawkers and laborers who are not earning " big " money but they are leading a happy life with their family. They know how much is enough for them and they know how to lead their life based on their steady inflow of income! In fact, one of my relatives, who is a roadside hawker, has "produced" two doctors and one engineer in the family. I have also come across a client who is a millionaire but he is not happy all the time. He is unhappy because he still can't get his desired first billion ringgit! For this client of mine, he is already 65 years old.

So, can we wait till we have enough money then only enjoy life together with the family?

The answer is in your hand!

The " Non Forgiveness " Mindset

Is forgiveness such a difficult task for us?

Many people believe that forgiveness is such an easy thing! When someone approaches us to say that so and so had offended him or her, most of the time we will tell them to forgive the offender. However, when someone has offended us, we will get stuck and at time our mind just refused to let go and tell us not to forgive the offender.

As at todate, I still have not come across any religion who teaches us not to forgive those who have offended us! Almost all religions in the world teach us to forgive and forget those who has offended us, however how many people really follow the teaching? Sometime I feel amuzed to know that even the Divine Being does not forgive those who sin against Him and "send" those who sin against him to etrenal Hell! If I have misunderstood the message of the Divine Being, I hope some kind hearted people could enlighten me!

I believe the practise of forgiveness doesn't apply only to just all the lay people! It also applies to country to country! If forgiveness cannot be practised in this world, can we live in a peaceful world?

A few good questions for us to ponder before I end this post:

1. What is pulling us from forgiving those who has offended us? Our Ego? Our Pride? or ....... ? ".

2. Will our " Non Forgiveness " mindset be the root cause of our future problem?

3. Can " Non Forgiveness " mindset helps us to resolve our problem?

4. Will " Non Forgiveness " leads to more problems?

5. Can we be more happy if we were to let go the " Non Forgiveness " mindset?

Please share your thoughts!

What A Belief?

Some people believe that when everything goes wrong with them or not on their side, they are having bad luck. They need to go to the religious places to do prayer to ward off their bad luck! I really do not know how far it is true! What I believe is that after they have performed their prayer, irrespective of whether the Divine Being is helping them or not, psychologically they will have more confidence in whatever they do!

Some people maybe saying that prayer does not help one to solve their problem or ward off their bad luck. Well, I believe when a person is having problem, his mind will not be stable and his confidence level will be low! This is the time when they will seek or look for spiritual support. Let us look at this example, when the economical situation is getting worse, we can see more people going to the religious places to seek blessings from the Divine Being! Another good example is : we can see more people seeking consultation from the astrologers or palmists to boost up their confidence.

As the saying goes, " Mind is the forerunner of all conditioned things! ". If your mind tell you you can do it, I believe you will definitely find a way to do it! ". If you believe after you have done your prayer and the Divine Being is with you or giving you His full support, this will immediately boost up your confidence! With your full confidence, whatever challenges you are going to face, you will be able to overcome it.

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

Who Makes Our Life Miserable?

My friend told me that he advised his son not to come back to our country after he has graduated from his study in foreign country. I asked him why and he told me all the negative apects of our country. What a pessimistic person my friend is! I strongly believe we should not look at thing in only one aspect! We should look at thing in totality!

Based on what he told me, my opinion is that he has forgotten that he was born in this country, he had his education in this country, he was married in this country, all his children were born in this country, he earns his living in this country to support his family and ............. no matter what negative views he has on this country, he still live comfortably in this country and support all his children to study in foreign country! If our country is so bad like what he said, I believe he won't be able to survive in this country! Based on what I know from him, he has 3 landed properties in the niche housing estate rented out to expatriates. I really do not know why he is still having such a negative view towards the country! In my opinion, if he were to open up his mindset and look at thing in totality, maybe he will change his view.

I believe my friend is not the odd one. Many people are also having this type of mindset. People tends to be so "forgetful" that they are now enjoying a good living! They just like to pick up one or two issues which are not to their benefits and harp on it!

I remember of a story which I read a few weeks ago, the story goes like this : There is a man who met a President of a well developed country and asked him what he wanted to do with his neighboring small country. The President told him that he is going to have war with the country, kill all the citizen who go against him and also a bicycle repairman so that his country can take over the small country. The man immediately asked the President why he needs to kill the bicycle repairman??????????

The moral of the story is that : mankind tends to look at extreme or some small mistake made by others and focus or harp on it. Just imagine why can't the man asked the President why he intends to kill so many people instead of just concern about the bicycle repairman?!

For those who possess the mindset of looking at thing in one aspects, I believe it is high time for them to learn to look at thing in totality so that their mind will not be clouded and become pessimistic! Life is uncertain, death is certain! Why waste our precious time just to focus on negative thing and make our life miserable!