" Learn One Thing Do Another Thing " Mindset

"What would you do if someone were to throw your holy scripture into the toilet bowl and flush it away? ". This is a very sensitive and good for thought question posted by one of the participants to the religious teacher. Without any hesitation, the religious teacher replied the participant with the below answer with a beautiful smile : " I will call the plumber in to clear the clog in the toilet drainage ".

" Don't you think we should fight back to protect the holiness or supremacy of our holy scripture? ". This is the second question posted to the religious teacher. For this question, the teacher replied with some interesting questions for the participant to reflect whether is it neccessary to fight back. The questions given by the teacher was : "Will the fight back give us more happiness and make the world a better place to live?". What would be the consequences if we were to fight back? Will this brings any good to the world or the future of mankind in this beautiful world?".

This question always linger on my mind : " Does the Almighty One agrees to this type of emotional based behavior? ". Based on my shallow understand, holy scripture always guides us to spread love, forgive those who sins against us and tell us that it is our duty to guide those lost souls to be on the right path. Well, instead of following the right teachings by the Almighty One, what I can see is a totally different picture in this beautiful world now. I believe the holy one wants to see us live in a peaceful and harmonious environment. I also strongly  believe that the Almight, Compassionate and Merciful One does not want to see bloodshed in this beautiful world. I believe the question now is : "Should we shoot at the lost sheeps or should we guide the lost sheep?". Is it right for us to shoot at the lost sheep? What is the difference between us and the lost sheep if we to shoot at them? Are we also considered as lost sheep since we have deviated from the teachings of the Almighty One? Please correct me if I am wrong.

Nowaday, most of the people are very emotional based! They can lost their cool and calm mind easily. When things do not turn out to be what they are hoping for, they will find ways to get what they want even it is a wrong way! They are not concerned about the consequences they are going to face later on. I really do not know what had happened to the human world now? Is this the right approach? What is the right thing people should be doing now? Can anyone help to clarify for me?

I do not have the slightest intention to criticise or insult anyone or any parties with this post. It is just my own reflection. Please ignore this post if it is not in your favor.

Hope to hear some valuable and constructive criticism and comments from my beloved visitors. Cheers!

The " Let Go " Mindset

"Let go"

You should not worry too much, you should learn to let go!
The past is gone, the future is yet to come, live now!
Don't worry be happy!

The above statements are the normal advice we would give to other who approaches us with a problem. I believe it is easy for us to advise anyone who approches us with a problem to let go. However, how many people can really understand the real meaning of "let go" and the worst part is that how many people really know the process on how to let go! Is committing suicide when we are facing problem a way of letting go? Can we consider hiding ourselves somewhere when we are facing problem a way of letting go?  

One of my friends who is suffering from Depression came to our house. He told me that the psychologist he is seeking treatment for told him that he must learn to let go whatever problem he is facing now. I believe giving advice to others is easy. However, when we are facing the same situation, can we really let go? I believe we will be caught in a situation of do not know what to do, confused, fear, lost .........etc.

An interesting question we should always reflect on : " How many problem or problems can we or should we hold on in our mind? ". I believe no one can really give us an accurate answer!  

Well, if a problem really cannot be resolved after we have put in much effort or already exhausted all avenues, what should you do next? Can committing suicide solve our problem? Sometime, I do wonder are we born in this world just to face and accumulate problems? What is the puropose of us born in this world? Is the function of our mind is just to be a "warehouse" to store problems? I believe it is not so.

Based on my observation, people who can solve their problem are those who find ways to shift their negative (reactive) thought to positive (proactive) thought. Instead of feeling sad, the person will focus on how happy he will be if he resolves his problem. By doing so, he charge himself with more positive energy and his "unhappy or sad" mind will become happy. With this sense of happiness in mind, his mind will start to anlayse what are the causes to his problem? With the analysis and right understanding, he can then see thing clearly and sensibly. Also, with the right understanding of the causes of his problem, he is then able to let go (discard or eliminate) all those non value added ideas or concept or fear in his mind. With the letting go of all the non value added things in his mind, he can now focus on doing the right thing right to lead a happier life. 

May All Beings Be Well Happy Always!

What A " Cancerous " Mindset!

I have been hearing people saying that in order for us to cure a cancer patient, the only way is to "destroy or kill" all the cancer cells in the body. I do not know whether is this a myth or a truth? Recently, I came across a video clip about how a Chinese physician uses the Origin-Point Therapy to help cancer patient to recover from the sickness. According to what the physician said, destroying or killing all the cancer cells by injecting or consuming the advance medicine may weaken the health of our body. He said that there were many obvious cases where the cancer patient went through surgical operation and a series of advanced medical treatment, their body immediately became very weak. They have to be isolated from the crowd, they will lose their appetite for food and they are also "banned" to eat certain type of food during the treatment period. What a suffering stage the patients have to go through! According to the physician, the increase of cancer cells in our body is just an INDICATOR to hint to us that our health is deteriorating and it is time for us to find ways to strength our health and not destroying the indicator. However, due to our misconception and fearful nature, most of time, we will find ways to destroy the indicator instead of finding ways to strength our health! According to the physician, cancer cells were already existed in our body since the day we were born. If cancer cells can really kill us, we will be dead since the day we were born. Hahaha....... . A good example would be our car, there are certain lights (indicators) installed in our car's dashboard to highlight to us if there are faulty areas in our car engine, however instead of repairing the faulty areas or parts, we tell our technician to disconnect the light because we think that if the light is disconnected, our car will be alright. A good question for us to reflect on : Should we repair the faulty parts or should we just disconnect the indicator?  

Well, human being tends to find ways to "destroy" or "chase away" their own relatives, friends or colleagues if he suspected that they are not committed to be with him. However, did he ever think of what has gone wrong and how should he strengthen the relationship instead of destroying the close link between him and others? Was it because he did not do the right thing right that had caused them to lost confident in him and leave him? I do not have an answer. What I can say is only this : "Whenever we point our fingers to others there are three fingers pointing back at us.". We need to think seriously what causes us to face this type of situation? We should not just put the blame on others. We are hitting at our ownself  and not others if we do not take the initiative to review what has gone wrong and just assume that others are wrong!

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

The " Bullshitting(?!)" Mindset

Argue, argue and argue. Condemn, condemn and condemn. Insult, insult and insult! This is the real scenario happening in the policitcal arena nowaday. Some politicians think that by using these tactics they can win over the confident of the voters to be on thier side! Can argue, condemn or insult really bring us the results we want? I do not have the answer.

It has been ages that we human like to think that people can easily be confused and convinced through just mere talk. However, if we still think that we can cover our own mistake through "bullshitting", I believe we have to standby to face more consequences.

As the saying goes, action speaks louder than words. We need to show people that what we had done and be honest to tell people what we have not done or have oversighted. Based on a good reason, we can seek peoples' consent to grant us more time to accomplish the tasks. By trying to divert others' attention by condemning what others had not done or had done wrong, I believe it can't help us to cover our own mistake. Some how or rather, the mistake will be " exploded " one day!

In God we trust, people needs data, facts, physical evidences to justify for what they have done.

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

An Interesting " Sexual Prowess Took A Front Seat In Marriage " Mindset

Sex lessons to help wives "serve their husband better than a first-class prostitute" will be among the classes provide by the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) to help promote harmonious marriages and counter social ills.
Its vice-prsident Dr Rohaya Mohamad said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional "good mother or good cook" role. ................ ' - extracted from Sunday Star , 5 June 2011 NATION page 3.

I was stunned when I read the above report by Isabella Lai at : http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2011/6/5/nation/8841974&sec=nation#13072862656871&if_height=524

I really do not know how far is it true that a husband who is kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices? This is really an interesting question for all of us to ponder upon!

Just a thought : Will there be any "side effects" if the wife is too good in bedroom? Will the husband start to suspect why his wife is so good in bed and start a "civil war" between them?". I do not have an answer to the question! By the way, with the formation of the Obedient Wives Club, will the husbands form a Loyal Husbands Club? Hahaha....... .

I am wondering why some women like to lower down their status as to become a "sex slave or sex toy " of the husband?! Is there any universal law stated that woman is born to be the "sex slave or sex toy" for the man?! In fact, can a women really use sex to "tie down" a husband heart? What is the reason why a husband go for prostitute? Is it because the wife is no good in bed? All these questions seem to be just focus on fulfilling the "pleasurable" aspects of Man!

I believe some of the reasons why a husband commit sexual misconduct are the :


1. feeling of " thrill or excitement ".
2. " push " factor from his peer group
3. "ego ( thinking of conquering others )" factor
4. "anything new is better" mindset



In fact, all the above thoughts and feelings arise are because the person does not manage his mind well! Instead he let his mind to manage him!

Last but not least, who has the actual authority to set the service standard for the prostitute? Based on what criteria do they set the standard? Another interesting question is how do we determine whether a prostitute is providing a first class service to a client? Hahaha....... .

Just hope to receive some sharings from my beloved readers.

" We Deserve To Be Happy " Mindset

What is your view towards the picture on the left?

1。the frog has very good fighting spirit and hold on till the last minute,
2。the frog is so stupid to hold on to the situation?

Human mind does work in a wondeful way. We can see thing either with a positive view or a negative view! Some people like to see thing with a negative view. Does it bring us any goood? Some said that it's good to have negative view so that we can standby with a contigency plan. Some said that it is a waste of time and we must be positive at all times! I believe as long as we do not go to the extreme, it is alright to look at the negative aspect of a matter and prepare a contigency plan.

Positive and negative are actually two extreme. Many people have forgotten that "zero" is the neutral. If we can stay at neutral, I believe we can live a more enjoyable and meaningful life! Two days ago, my cousin came over to visit me. While we were chit chatting, he suddenly brought up the subject of how do we find happiness? He said although he has already get what he wants, he is still not happy with he has right now? He gave me an example of three years ago, he was staying in a condo, currently, he just bought a landed property at a renowned housing area and he is still not happy with what he has? I believe this is an interesting question for us to reflect upon!

In fact, I believe that many people are facing the same problem as my cousin is facing right now! He doesn't know his own level of contentment, he also doesn't know how to appreciate what he has right now! He continues to strive without a direction! At the end of the day, what he will achieve is " Exhaustion "! With all the stress and exhaustion he has gone through, will he live to enjoy what he has acquired or achieved, I do not know! I had seen many people who worked extremely hard and at the end of the day, what they get are diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problem and they do not live to enjoy what they had acquired! Well, please do not get me wrong that we shouldn't work hard to get what we want! What I am trying to share is we must first define our own level of contentment and must appreciate what we have achieved. No one in this world can really makes us happy except ourselves! If we can define our own level of contentment and not to worry about others "measuring" our status in the society, we can be happy all the times!

Any disagreement with my view? Please share your views!

What A " Mother's Day " Celebration Mindset

" Happy Mother's Day! ". I have seen many people celebrated the recent Mother's Day in posh restaurant! I rejoice with them. However, there are two good questions always linger on my mind, i.e. Should we just make our mother happy only during Mothers' Day? Will all the mothers be more happy during Mother's Day?

I believe what a mother wants from her kids is not only the celebration during Mother's Day! She wanted to see that her kids are well disciplined, well mannered, successful in their career and most of all they can constantly communicate with her. I mentioned the word "kids" many many times because eventhough we are sixty or seventy years old, in the eyes of our beloved mother, we are always their small kids! Hahaha.............. .

Mothers never think that their kids are their burden! However, in this modern or advanced society, I have seen many people considering their mother as a heavy burden! Should this be the way we show our gratitude towards our beloved mother?! I believe my beloved readers should have the answer! When we were small, we explore the world by asking our mother question with the word "WHY?". However, when we have grown up and our beloved mother started to use the same word "WHY" to ask us questions, we feel irritated and just ignore her! What would happen if our mother were to ignore all our questions when we were young? I do not have the answer.

Well, what is more meaningful? To make our mother happy eveyday or just make her happy only during Mother's Day? I hope to hear you views my dear readers.

We celebrated Valentine's Day in February, this month we have Mother's Day, next month we will have Father's Day. When will we have the Grandfather's Day, Grandmother's Day, Husband's Day, Wife's Day, Brother's Day and or Sister's Day? Hahaha........ . What a great idea for the businessman right? It might not be the correct or right terms for the businessman to use for the celebration, however, given the opportunity and think along the line, I believe many businessman can make some money from all these celebrations! Happy for them! Hahaha.... .