An Interesting " Tuition " Mindset!

Just saw an interesting banner on the roadside advertises that a private tutition centre has produced many many many full " A " ( Distinction ) students. Based on what I understanding, many of the "full distinction" student just took up one or two subjects in the private tuition centre, however, the tuition centre is highlighting to the public with this great academic performance banner.

I do not know why are there so many private tuition centres have been set up in the country nowaday? Some of the interesting questions which appeared in my mind when I saw the advertisement were : What is the main cause of this sudden bloom of the "tuition" industry? Are there any problem with our education system? Are the teachers incompetent to teach the students? I am wondering why some of the tuition teachers who are from the public school can produce great "A" students in the tuition centre whereas they can't do it in the public school? etc........ . Is the blooming business of the private tuition centres an indication that the current education system and or the competency of the teachers need to be reviewed and improved accordingly? I really do not know! Maybe a survey from the parents should be carried out to assess the situation.

Anyway, I believe education begins at home. Parents should not just delegate this responsibility to the private tuition centres. They have to supervise, guide and ensure that their children do their homework. As the saying goes, " Charity begins at home ", I believe it is also appropriate to say that " Education begins at home! ". Anyone wants to share your comments?

Have A " Considerate " Mindset!

I was speechless when I heard one of my friends told me that his neighbors really made him annoyed when they burnt the firecrackers the whole night through. His sleep was interrupted. He was having severe headache the next morning.

Recently, one of the religious devotees celebrated their religious festival in our country. With due respect, we shared their joy in celebrating the festival. However, if their happiness of celebrating the festival becomes the sorrow of others, I believe it is not right! According to my friend, his neighbor even throw the firecrackers into his house compound which exploded with very loud "bang" in his car porch which is just in front of his bed room! He was really mad about it! I believe we should be considerate towards each others when we are celebrating any festivals?

Mankind, be it of any race or any religious group, has high tendency to lost themselves and making wrong perception of others when they are celebrating any events! They will think that others will not mind if they are making huge noises because they are celebrating an event! Well, I believe whether others will mind or not, we have to respect the privacy of others. Be discipline in our own behavior and do not bring unhappiness to others is the utmost important aspect of our life! I have to emphasize that there is nothing wrong to celebrate any happy events, however, we must not bring any unhappiness towards others!

Just take an example, how many accident cases happen every year when people are celebrating the arrival of the coming new year and or any religious festivals? Do we want any of our family members to be the victims of these events? I still remember when I was young, during chinese new year, they will be many people lost their home due to fire because of firecrackers! Do we want to be a victim of this type of the fire?

May all beings be free from selfishness and be considerate of others' well-being!

Who Creates The " Depressed " Mindset?

Depression seems to be in the rise in this modern society now! What has gone wrong? What are the causes of Depression? How should we prevent it from happening? How should we treat it?

I really do not know what has gone wrong in this so called "Modern Society". In fact, I also do not know why some people need to "show off" that they are living in a moden society?! How does the modern society benefit mankind? I cannot deny to certain extend that the modern society has improved the living standard in terms of material gain, sensual pleasure and or sexual pleasure of the people! However, in terms of human value, morality and health, I really do not know how people can reap any benefits from it! Nowaday, we can see more violent "killing" cases, vice activities and "modern" sickness ( are the "modern" society people more healthier tha the so called "Non Modern" society?) !

Nowaday, people are chasing for materialistic gain and fame, they have ignored the two little important words of life, they are : "Needs" and "Wants"! They spent more time chasing for their "Wants" instead of what they "Needs"! The more they spent their valuable time to chase after their wants, the more stressful they are at the end of the day! I still remember the analogy where someone told me the businessman are just like a cyclist! Once they are on their bicycle, they can't stop their feet movement! They have to continue to cycle till they reach their destination! If they stop cycling, they will fall! Mankind continues to chase after their "wants" is just like a cyclist! However, a cyclist has an ending point whereas people's want does not have any ending point! If they can achieve or get what they want, they will be on top of the world! However, if they do not get what they want, will they be happy? I believe the effect of long term unhappiness and living in the shadow of fear of others looking down upon or tease them will eventually lead them to Depression! Please correct me if I am wrong.

Should we lead our own life or should we let others to manage and or control our life? We have a choice! If we could have a clear mind, we definitely know how should we lead our life! Do not let our ego and pride lead us to terrible consequences - Depression!

May all beings be free from "Mental" and "Bodily" suffering always!

What a " Wonderful " Mindset!

I was shocked when I heard a young mother told a salesgirl at a departmental store that her life has devastated after she had given birth to her first baby.

Nowaday, many young couples married based on " ideal " and or " romantic " concept. What they want is just to hold each other hands till death separate them apart. They do not want any additional family members to "interrupt or destroy" their " ideal " or " romantic " life!

Well, it is fair that if they do not want to have any additional family members, they have to take extra or additional precautions. They just can't have "pleasure" and do not want to face any "pressure" and also do not want to take any precautionary steps!!!

What a wonderful mindset does this mother has? Blaming the children for her own negligence and poor planning! Is it right? Isn't it funny? Just a silly thought, will their children blame them for bringing them to this world? Will their children condemn their for this irresponsible statement?! Many young couples nowaday are seriously looking for treatment for not able to conceive! I believe for those who can conceive and have a healthy baby, they should be grateful for it!

" To Be Positive " Or " To Be Realistic "?

I believe many of us will have great difficulties to choose between to be positive or to be realistic when we are facing challenges! I had come across many businessman who are facing this problem. They are usually lost at this crossroad! Just to share a good example is : recently, one of my friends who was once upon a time a well known property developer has been greatly affected by the economic slowdown and is facing a real serious financial problem. One of his creditors has filed a petition to the Court to wind up his company. He is very frustrated and he told me that why nobody can see the future like what he sees! According to him, the total gross development value of all his projects has exceeded RM4 billion and why the people do not want to give him a chance! Currently, he is not only facing the problem with the creditors, he is also facing the problem with his bankers. He has been given one month to resolve the issue with the said creditor if he wants to stop the winding up petition! As the amount involved is too large, I really do not know how he is going to settle the matter with the said creditor! Some of my friends who are financial advisers told me that unless he is willing to dispose off some of his projects or there is a "white knight" to rescue him, or else that's the end of his company. From what I am aware, this friend of mine is highly egoistic and very "kiatsu" type of person, I really do not know whether he will take the advice of the financial advisers?! Anyway, that's his life and I wish him all the best!

I believe many of us will face or had faced this type of situation before where you have to choose between to be positive or to be realistic! How to be positive if you are avoiding reality? How to face the reality if you are not positive? It is a real tricky question! Anyway, I believe they have to come in pair!

Anyone has any views to share?

Is This " Right Thing Right " ?

Teachers can go into politics!

I believe this is a real interesting topic to discuss about. I do not know how many people will support and how many of people will oppose the idea! If a teacher were to join a political party, I really do not know how he can segregate his duty as a teacher and a politician?!

I believe teachers are the most important person in our life, they teach us what is right and what is wrong! By joining a political party, can the teacher have an impartial views towards what he sees and what he does? I do not know.

I believe the duty and the responsibility of a teacher is not just restricted to helping the students to achieve academic excellence. They have to help to inculcate moral values, discipline and provide the right guidance to the students to lead a right and healthy life!

Have you ever seen a politician who praises his opposition party for doing a good job? I do not know! So far what I have seen is politicians busy "digging" another party faults and highlighting them to the whole world so that they can gain more supporters! In order for the politicians to do it, they will have to instill hatred towards all the members within the party so that they will dislike the other party and help them to "dig" whatever that are unfavorable to the opposition party!

Can a person who will instill hatred towards other guides us on the right path? Please share your views!

" Tools " vs " Heart "

I just heard of an interesting story about my friend's parent in laws. Her parent in laws like to quarrel everyday. It seems like a daily affair where they will "poke" at each other and start the quarrelling. Both their age add up is more than 140 years old. With their age I do not believe that they do not know how to communicate! People with more than 70 years of communicating experience still have problem in communicating with each others?!

We can invent the best and most advanced comminucation tools in the world, however, if people refuse to communicate or "no heart" to talk to each others, the tools become useless! I still remember I had seen a documentary program about a shipyard which is about 100 years old. One of the directors of the shipyard told the interviewer that when they started the shipyard, they did not luxury of having the communication tools such as handphone, walkie talkie or any wireless devices, however, they still complete the ships and delivered to their customers on time!

What is the real cause of communication problem now? The communication tools or the " Heart and Attitude " of the people?

Anyone to share your views?