Sunday, November 28, 2010

" I Do " or " I Am Not Sure " Mindset

"When we are old one day and we can't find anyone to take care of us, I will sit beside you on a bench and listen to your narration about how good you were when you were young! I don't mind what type of food we will be eating, I also do not know how to complain about anything, all I want is just to hold your hand tightly as I am your wife! I have dedicated my whole life to you, I had been your faithful follower ever since I was young, although I have seen many life events and happenings in this world, I do not find one thing that is more important than YOU! My dedication to you makes me realises that happiness is when we have " noises " around. When the departing moment has come, I will have to let you leave before me as it would be heartbreak for me to see you drop your tears for me! .......................". This is the lyric ( translated from a popular chinese song ) of a beautiful and meaningful song which I had just listened to a moment ago.

How many couples can really stick to their marriage vow nowaday? Before the marriage, many couple will tell each other that they will love and take care of each other till death separate them apart! I do not have the world divorce survey record, but by looking at the current scenario in the world, I have a feeling ( my feeling only! Please don't quote me! ), the divorce rate may have increased over the years. This beautiful and "modernised" world is full of many attractive and seductive things which can really blind and confuse the mind of the people nowaday! Money, luxurious lifestyle, sensual pleasure and sexual pleasure, these are some of the irresistable factors which can break up a family!
I like this beautiful and meaningful song very much as it reminds me of my late beloved mother. I can firmly say that my beloved mother fits in well to the description of the song. She had dedicated her whole life to my dad and our family. Her patience, her tolerance, her " take care of others first " attitude has really earned our highest respect! My beloved mother and father were a "victim" of the ancient mindset! Their marriage was pre-arranged by my grandparents. They did not have a chance to choose their life partner. Although my late beloved mother was an illiterate, she perfomed her duties as a wife very well. She went through all the "up and down" of life together with my dad. As for my dad, he also perfomed his duties as a husband and father very well. Although my dad was very bad temper, he did not neglect his duty as a good husband and father! No matter how busy he was, he will definitely find some time to be with us everyday. My highest respect to both of them!
I do hope to see that young couple can spend more time for each other every day. Communication is crucial for young couples as without it their hearts will start to wonder or fall apart easily. Based on my observation, nowaday, many younger couples are chasing for their dreams, some even work till they do not have time for each other! In my opinion, this is extremely dangerous as no one can guarantee whether the " lonely " heart of your beloved partner will start to wonder or be attracted by this modern society one day? Hahaha...... . Take care!


  1. Sathira,
    Thank you so much for the card.
    Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!!

  2. I love this post! So true about marriage, ups and downs.

  3. Thanks Kim for sharing your view.

    May you be well and happy always!