" Tools " vs " Heart "

I just heard of an interesting story about my friend's parent in laws. Her parent in laws like to quarrel everyday. It seems like a daily affair where they will "poke" at each other and start the quarrelling. Both their age add up is more than 140 years old. With their age I do not believe that they do not know how to communicate! People with more than 70 years of communicating experience still have problem in communicating with each others?!

We can invent the best and most advanced comminucation tools in the world, however, if people refuse to communicate or "no heart" to talk to each others, the tools become useless! I still remember I had seen a documentary program about a shipyard which is about 100 years old. One of the directors of the shipyard told the interviewer that when they started the shipyard, they did not luxury of having the communication tools such as handphone, walkie talkie or any wireless devices, however, they still complete the ships and delivered to their customers on time!

What is the real cause of communication problem now? The communication tools or the " Heart and Attitude " of the people?

Anyone to share your views?

" I Don't Care " Mindset!

" Paralysed Girl Gets RM800,000 "

The above was the headline highlighted in one of today's newspaper. A tragic accident more than 10 years ago left the girl paralysed from the chest down.

I believe different people may have different views towards the above news. Some people may say that what is the point of getting the compensation where you are paralysed? Some may say, "Wow, got so much money! ".

Sometime, I do not understand why some people can take life so lightly. They thought that every problem can be solved by money! Recently, I met with an accident. My car was "banged" by a pick up van from behind. The very first thing the driver said when he came out from the car was : " Just dented only. No problem la, you can claim from my insurance company. My insurance company is very efficient, you can get the claim very fast! No need to worry! ". I was utterly disappointed with the attitude of the driver! He did not even ask me whether I or the passengers in my car were hurt? He was more concern about the car! The worst part was that, he did not even regret over his mistake and apologise! In his mind, he thought that he has insurance coverage, why worry?! Insurance company will help him to solve his problem! I was sad to find out later that, he is a "horrible" driver! He has bad driving attitude and used to knock at people very often!

I believe some people need a critical incident to attain realisation! Sometime, it would be too late for them to realise if that critical incident were to take place. Why can't people "wake up" by themselves? Any good advice for this type of people?

Is This An "Illogical" Or "Logical" Mindset?

" What would happen if your "Golden Dragon" fish dies?" I asked my friend who is a devout follower of feng shui when I visited him recently. My friend just ignored my above question and turn his back to me. I believe he was unhappy over my question. He is a person who is very superstitious. He might think that my question will bring him bad luck! Hahaha..... .

I do not know why some people think that their life can be improved by rearing fishes, putting plants in their house etc etc.... . I do not know what would happen if their fishes or plants die, will their life be affected? Well, I believe no one can control or guarantee the life span of the fishes and plants so that they won't die before we die?

Should we control our life or should we let the external factors to control our life? My friend is rearing the golden dragon fish, however, his life is controlled by the fish? We are the "servant" or "maid" to the fish? Is it logical? I do not know! Please share your valuable views.

The Last Rite!

What a wonderful thing to be tagged by Lian of Loving Kindness @ Samsara. Thanks Lian for your kind thought. I will do my part accordingly.

The rules of this little tag game are:

1) Go to your photo files, select the 8th photo folder.

2) Select the 8th photo in that folder.

3) Post that photo along with the story behind it

4) Then challenge 8 blogging friends to do the same!

So, I will tag the following people for the game:

1) Jasper - Control Your Destiny http://controlyourdestiny.wordpress.com/2010/04/13/2269/ )

2) Alma - Live, Love, Laugh With Philly 5113 http://philly5113.blogspot.com/

3) Sara - The Breathing Post http://www.thebreathingpost.com/
4) Kim - Stuff Could Always Be Worse http://stuffcouldalwaysbeworse.blogspot.com/

5) Md Abdul Maleque - Physiofuru http://physioforu.blogspot.com/

6) Grace D Chong - Leaves Of Grace http://www.leavesofgrace.blogspot.com/

7) Colin Myles - Grow and Succed http://www.colinmyles.blogspot.com/

8) Say Lee - Going Global http://globallee.blogspot.com/

The above picture is the 8th picture in my photo file. I just love this photo because it reminds me that all of us will have to go through this last rite! The above last rite was for my mum. It was a simple but meaningful ceremony where the prayer was done before her body was being sent to the crematorium. I am glad that mum lived till the age of 92. I really do not know how many people in this world can live till the age of 90 now.

Mum, if your consciousness is still around us, may I take this opportunity to wish you, "May You Be Well And Happy In Your Next Life! Please do not worry about us!".

Where Does Happiness Come From?

I just came across the below thought provoking statement :

Ask yourselves, ''Why was I born?'' Some people don't know. They want to be happy but the suffering never stops. Rich or poor, young or old, they suffer just the same. And why? Because they have no wisdom. The poor are unhappy because they don't have enough, and the rich are unhappy because they have too much to look after.

I just couldn't disagree with the above statement! Where is the cut off point? Different people may have different perception! Happy or unhappy is a stage of mind!

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

The "Never Ending Problem" Of Mankind!

"What are the causes of mankind's never ending problems?"

My opinion is : our moral conduct! I believe there are few important moral conducts we have to observe in order for us to eliminate or not to create new problems! There are :

1. Taking the life of others because they are the "stumbling block" towards our progress!

2. Taking things that do not belong to us.

3. Commit sexual misconduct!

4. Not truthful in our speech!

5. Taking intoxicating foods or drinks.

How can we lead a peaceful life if we to break the above moral conducts? We will always live in the shadow of fear! Just to share some examples : If we have killed someone, we are afraid of people taking revenge, if we steal or taking things that do not belong to us (which includes accepting bribe!), we will worry that people may find out and report to the authority, if we have committed sexual misconduct, we will worry that we may contract life threatening diseases and also scare that our spouse may find out and be divorced! If we were to tell lie, we will worry that others may find out the truth and we have to continuously create a big lie to cover the previous lie. If we were to take intoxicants such as drugs, we will worry that our employer may find out and terminate our service and also we will worry that police may arrest us one day!

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

Can We Escape From Reality?

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I saw the above advertisement a few days ago. I am wondering what are the "active ingredients" of this product? This amazing product really challenges the ageing process?! As for side effects, the advertiser did not mention anything about it! I really do not know how far it is true.

Anyway, I believe those who are scare of growing old will be attracted by this advertisement! I am wondering how would a 80 years old man look like after using the product? An old face with a young skin? I am really curious and interested to find out one day!

Well, why are people so afraid to grow old? What is the problem of growing old? The below interesting question always linger in my mind whenever I come across this type of situation, "Do we have problem when we were young?".

Please share your views!