Breaking Mindset

An Interesting " Sexual Prowess Took A Front Seat In Marriage " Mindset

2011-06-05T22:56:00.013+08:00

Sex lessons to help wives "serve their husband better than a first-class prostitute" will be among the classes provide by the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) to help promote harmonious marriages and counter social ills.
Its vice-prsident Dr Rohaya Mohamad said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional "good mother or good cook" role. ................ ' - extracted from Sunday Star , 5 June 2011 NATION page 3.

I was stunned when I read the above report by Isabella Lai at : http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2011/6/5/nation/8841974&sec=nation#13072862656871&if_height=524

I really do not know how far is it true that a husband who is kept happy in the bedroom would have no reason to stray, seek out prostitutes or indulge in other social vices? This is really an interesting question for all of us to ponder upon!

Just a thought : Will there be any "side effects" if the wife is too good in bedroom? Will the husband start to suspect why his wife is so good in bed and start a "civil war" between them?". I do not have an answer to the question! By the way, with the formation of the Obedient Wives Club, will the husbands form a Loyal Husbands Club? Hahaha....... .

I am wondering why some women like to lower down their status as to become a "sex slave or sex toy " of the husband?! Is there any universal law stated that woman is born to be the "sex slave or sex toy" for the man?! In fact, can a women really use sex to "tie down" a husband heart? What is the reason why a husband go for prostitute? Is it because the wife is no good in bed? All these questions seem to be just focus on fulfilling the "pleasurable" aspects of Man!

I believe some of the reasons why a husband commit sexual misconduct are the :

1. feeling of " thrill or excitement ".
2. " push " factor from his peer group
3. "ego ( thinking of conquering others )" factor
4. "anything new is better" mindset

In fact, all the above thoughts and feelings arise are because the person does not manage his mind well! Instead he let his mind to manage him!

Last but not least, who has the actual authority to set the service standard for the prostitute? Based on what criteria do they set the standard? Another interesting question is how do we determine whether a prostitute is providing a first class service to a client? Hahaha....... .

Just hope to receive some sharings from my beloved readers.

" We Deserve To Be Happy " Mindset

2011-05-17T17:24:00.010+08:00

What is your view towards the picture on the left?

1。the frog has very good fighting spirit and hold on till the last minute,
2。the frog is so stupid to hold on to the situation?

Human mind does work in a wondeful way. We can see thing either with a positive view or a negative view! Some people like to see thing with a negative view. Does it bring us any goood? Some said that it's good to have negative view so that we can standby with a contigency plan. Some said that it is a waste of time and we must be positive at all times! I believe as long as we do not go to the extreme, it is alright to look at the negative aspect of a matter and prepare a contigency plan.

Positive and negative are actually two extreme. Many people have forgotten that "zero" is the neutral. If we can stay at neutral, I believe we can live a more enjoyable and meaningful life! Two days ago, my cousin came over to visit me. While we were chit chatting, he suddenly brought up the subject of how do we find happiness? He said although he has already get what he wants, he is still not happy with he has right now? He gave me an example of three years ago, he was staying in a condo, currently, he just bought a landed property at a renowned housing area and he is still not happy with what he has? I believe this is an interesting question for us to reflect upon!

In fact, I believe that many people are facing the same problem as my cousin is facing right now! He doesn't know his own level of contentment, he also doesn't know how to appreciate what he has right now! He continues to strive without a direction! At the end of the day, what he will achieve is " Exhaustion "! With all the stress and exhaustion he has gone through, will he live to enjoy what he has acquired or achieved, I do not know! I had seen many people who worked extremely hard and at the end of the day, what they get are diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problem and they do not live to enjoy what they had acquired! Well, please do not get me wrong that we shouldn't work hard to get what we want! What I am trying to share is we must first define our own level of contentment and must appreciate what we have achieved. No one in this world can really makes us happy except ourselves! If we can define our own level of contentment and not to worry about others "measuring" our status in the society, we can be happy all the times!

Any disagreement with my view? Please share your views!

What A " Mother's Day " Celebration Mindset

2011-05-09T17:11:00.008+08:00

" Happy Mother's Day! ". I have seen many people celebrated the recent Mother's Day in posh restaurant! I rejoice with them. However, there are two good questions always linger on my mind, i.e. Should we just make our mother happy only during Mothers' Day? Will all the mothers be more happy during Mother's Day?

I believe what a mother wants from her kids is not only the celebration during Mother's Day! She wanted to see that her kids are well disciplined, well mannered, successful in their career and most of all they can constantly communicate with her. I mentioned the word "kids" many many times because eventhough we are sixty or seventy years old, in the eyes of our beloved mother, we are always their small kids! Hahaha.............. .

Mothers never think that their kids are their burden! However, in this modern or advanced society, I have seen many people considering their mother as a heavy burden! Should this be the way we show our gratitude towards our beloved mother?! I believe my beloved readers should have the answer! When we were small, we explore the world by asking our mother question with the word "WHY?". However, when we have grown up and our beloved mother started to use the same word "WHY" to ask us questions, we feel irritated and just ignore her! What would happen if our mother were to ignore all our questions when we were young? I do not have the answer.

Well, what is more meaningful? To make our mother happy eveyday or just make her happy only during Mother's Day? I hope to hear you views my dear readers.

We celebrated Valentine's Day in February, this month we have Mother's Day, next month we will have Father's Day. When will we have the Grandfather's Day, Grandmother's Day, Husband's Day, Wife's Day, Brother's Day and or Sister's Day? Hahaha........ . What a great idea for the businessman right? It might not be the correct or right terms for the businessman to use for the celebration, however, given the opportunity and think along the line, I believe many businessman can make some money from all these celebrations! Happy for them! Hahaha.... .

A " Burden " Mindset!

2011-05-09T16:14:00.004+08:00

Is it wrong to be born as mentally retarded? Who wants to be born mentally retarded?

I was at a restaurant yesterday night when a young teenage girl rushed towards a lady customer at one of the tables and stared at the lady's face very very closely. I was shocked with this young girl's action. However, after I observed her behavior for a while, I found out the she is a mentally retarded girl, I feel really sorry for this young pretty girl. I was especially sad when I saw her dad pulled her away and knocked at her head for disturbing the lady. Although the lady did mention to her dad that it is alright for her, her dad continued to pull her away. I was very sad and really heartache when I heard the young girl cried. I believe no one wants to be born mentally retarded. Since she has already come to this world, I believe all of us in this world must give them the best support, take care of them and give them the due respect! We should not despise them or feel that they are a burden to us! I believe they do have the right to live in this beautiful world. Please respect their right!

Nowaday, we can see in the media that there were many cases of mentally retarded kids being abused or harrased by the mentally healthy persons. I believe not only the parents of the kids need to take extra efforts to take care of them, all of us in this world must also provide our assistance to help them. We should not take advantage of them, abuse or harrass them! As all of us are aware, even animals knows how to protect their babies, why can't we as human beings protect our younger generations especially the unfortunate ones?!

What A " Victimising " Mindset!

2011-04-30T14:12:00.007+08:00

This morning when I was renewing my medical insurance policy, my agent told me that the premium has been increased. I have to pay more for the same amount of sum assured. When I asked her the reason for the increase in premium, she told me that the reason is because many policy holders misuse their insurance claims and thus the insurance company is suffering huge losses. In order for them to recover from the huge losses, the insurance company has to increase our premium. What an interesting reason the insurance company is giving to their valuable customers. The insurance company is transferring their "liabilities" to their "Valuable & Healthy" customers! Hahaha...... .

Looking for "scapegoat" seems to be one of the distinct human behaviors! I understand that some of my beloved readers may disagree with my above view. Well, I do not rule out that there are some exceptional cases! However, how many "exceptional" people can we really meet in this beautiful world? I do not have an answer!

Can anyone share your views please?

What An " Easily Convinced " Mindset

2011-04-10T11:27:00.005+08:00

Recently, my neighbor's husband bought a set of very expensive " wonder medicine " for her. According to my neighbor, her husband told her that this medicine can cure cancer and also help to cure her back pain. She requested me to explain to her the contents of the brochure. As I was also interested to know what this " wonder " medicine is, I read through the brochure word by word very carefully. On the first page of the brochure, they highlighted the benefits of promoting this product. On the second page, they highlighted the benefits of " beautification " and " anti-aging " after consuming the " wonder medicine". On the third page, they highlighted that scientists believe that some of the contents of this " wonder medicine " can prevent cancer and ......... . However, I did not come across any proven cases or evidences written in the brochure that this " wonder medicine " can cure cancer. After I had gone through the whole brochure, I found out that this so called " wonder medicine " is actually a supplement sold by the direct selling agent. Well, I am not here to criticise or insult any direct selling company. What I wish is that the direct selling company should set up a code of ethics and provide proper training to their agents as not to mislead their potential customers. I also hope that anyone who wish or are selling health food or supplement, they should not begin with " Profit or Money " as the end in mind. They have to always bear in mind that they are dealing with health food which will either improve the health status of their customers or they are going to destroy the life of their customers! I believe all potential customers of all these wonder products should be more cautious about the functions of the product! Whether is it use as a supplement or is it a real medicine. There are many wonder medicines available in the market which contains steroids and need to be prescibed by a qualified medical practitioner and not to be simply sell to the customers.

Lastly, we should not be blinded by the " convincing " talk by any sales agents! We should verify all the facts and data before purchase or consume any products. In God, we trust, however, with people, we need data and facts to justify what they said.

The " Simply Let Others To Control " Mindset

2011-04-06T17:07:00.009+08:00

Many people like to despise their own country and admire those " super-power" countries because they are the strongest and supposed to be the most advanced nation. Well, I really do not know whether is it true that there are no unhappy people in a "super power " countries. Does happiness really come from staying in a " super power " country? Do we really need to stay in an advanced country only can we find happiness? Do we mean we can't find happy people in the under-developed countries? I do not have an answer!

I believe as long as we can't define our own contentment level, we won't be able to find happiness in this world! We will be just like a lost soul in the sea. Just to share a real life story with my beloved readers, my brother in law is a retired man and he leads a simple life after his retirement. He is staying in a small comfortable house and driving a 20 years old car. All his children were professionals. When his friends saw him still using the old car. They asked him why is he still using the same old car? To his friends, changing car is not a problem to him at all. He gave his friends two reasons : 1. the car is still in good condition and can take him anywhere he likes. 2. He doesn't need to service any car loan anymore, why should he look for all this burden again? According to my brother in law, he is happy with his old junk! Hahaha.... . Well, my brother in law can find his happiness in his old car, however, how many people can do that? Nowaday, many people just can't resist the temptations of the world and the worst case is that they can't stand the challenges of people measuring their status in the society and their wealth. All these have caused many people to lost their mind!

I believe the choice is in our our hand, should we let others or external factors to control our happiness or should we create our own happiness from within ourselves? Please share your views.

What A " Problematic(?!) " Mindset!

2011-04-02T10:35:00.005+08:00

I believe it is interesting to know about the political scenario nowaday. If we were to group the "infotainment" produced by some of the politicians, it can only be categorised into 7 categories. 1. " Backside " case , 2. " Front side " incident, 3. " Corrupt " practises, 4. " Criminal " case, 5. " Color " case, 6. " Religion " case and 7. " Cronism " case. They just keep on highlighting, highlighting, talking, talking and amusing the public but there were no solution in place! Knowing the problem, highlighting the problem, chanting the problem, married with the problem, have children with the problem, and when comes to solution of the problem, another set of problem will be highlighted to cover or divert the attention of the people away from the previous problem! Hahaha... . What an interesting human act! It is true that we are living in a world of "Challenges"! From one challenge to another challenges, e.g we have to tell a bigger lie to cover a small lie.

What an interesting world we are living in now? Creating bigger problem to cover a smaller problem! I do not know when will human being learn from all these lessons?

What A " Worry After Death " Mindset?

2011-03-31T14:17:00.005+08:00

I was reading an article, titled : " A Dead Sure Investment" in one of the newspaper recently, based on what was written in the article, it is good to invest on the good feng shui "after death" property (cemetry). I have no comments over what they said. Well, I do agree that there is nothing wrong to prepare for our own death.

I believe all the religions in the world are teaching or guiding their devotees to do the "Right Thing Right". I do not know how many religions are teaching their devotees to buy their own good feng shui burial ground before they die. I believe no one knows and can predict how we are going to die, will I die during earthquake? Will I die in a tsunami? Will I die in civil war? Will I die in plane crash? etc.... . and also no one knows and can prove to us where we are going after the end of our life.

However, I am aware that everything in this world is subject to impermanence or change. Based on the Law of Impermanency, I believe we cannot exclude feng shui. If feng shui is also subject to change, who can guarantee us that our good feng shui burial ground will not be affected by the buildings, the highways, the telco towers, the high voltage electrical transmission towers or the overhead bridges that our next generations are going to build? Who can guarantee that our bones will not be digged out if the government want to buy back the land for development purposes? Can feng shui predict the unknown future? I do not know.

Please share your views?

Have A Cool And Calm Mindset

2011-03-04T13:34:00.006+08:00

A friend of mine forwarded an interesing email to me recently. Inside the mail, it said that when we are practising yoga, evil spirit will take over our body. Well, I am not in a position to comment anything about it as I am not either a Yoga Master or a Yoga practitioner. I just deleted the mail after reading it as I am not interested in the topic.

The world is in a messy situation now. Sometime it is difficult for us to differentiate who is telling the truth and who is telling lies! Sometime we can see that when everyone in the community believe in the lie, the lie becomes the truth. Only when the truth reveals that people will then change their view accordingly.

I believe the best thing for us to do from falling into confusion is to constantly watch our mind. We have to keep our mind cool and calm so that we can see thing clearly. We must be mindful in whatever we do, write and say. We should not just believe in whatever we heard or see, we have to find out the real cause or causes of the event or happening.

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

" Save Money Or Committing Crime " ?

2011-03-03T12:27:00.012+08:00

I overheard someone saying at a coffee shop that since the increase in electricty rate, there were many companies taking steps to save their electricity bills in the organization nowaday. I believe this is a good approach for the companies. However, according to the person, some of the companies are using a wrong approach to reduce their electricity bill. They couldn't be bothered whether they will be caught by the Authority. What they did is to fix a illegal gadget to slow down the smooth running of the electricity meters so that their bills will not be high! It seems that the amount of money they can save is quite substantial. Well, I believe they can save the electricity bills, however, I believe they did not lower down the consumption of the electricity. In fact, instead of saving money in the right way, he or she has committed a crime.

I believe some of us may have this type of experience before where we do thing without thinking thoroughly. If we are mindful, we will not commit this type of misconduct.

Do share your views.

" Life Is More Secured " Mindset

2011-03-03T11:40:00.003+08:00

" Many robbery and murdered incidences made me feel my life is not secured nowday. I feel more secured and comfortable to stay in a gated housing estate. " . This is what my friend told me recently.

Does staying in a gated housing estate make us more secured? I do not have the answer. Anyway, I did read from the newspaper before that there were incidences where the security guards were the culprits in the unfavorable incidences.

I was asked by a friend recently that who can guarantee our house will not be "visited" by the thief if we were to go for a long holiday without locking our house? Can we pray hard and depend on the Almighty Being to save our house? Can we depend on our neighbor to help take care of our house 24 hours? Can we depend on the security guard to guard ur house? Well, I really do not have a clue on this.

I believe no one in this world can saves us. We can't depend on others to save our life. We have to do our part to prevent all the unfavorable incidents to happen to us.

Agree or disagree? Do share your views with us.

Overcoming The "Unknown"

2011-01-25T11:48:00.012+08:00

We are living in an " Unknown " world! We do not know how long can we live in this world? We do not know what will be our future like? We do not know who will be our spouse one day? We do not know how we will leave this world? We do not know who we will be one day? We do not know............ etc. There are so many unknown in our life!

How should we face the unknown? I believe we should live in the PRESENT and forget about the unknown!!! I still can remember what Master Ogui said in the movie, "Kung Fu Panda" - "Yesterday is a history, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is a gift. That is why today is known as PRESENT! Live life to its fullest in the present moment and we will not regret at the end of our life!

As the saying goes, "Good begets good, Bad begets bad", I believe if we were to do good, avoid evils and manage our evil thoughts so that it is under control, there is nothing for us to worry about the unknown! The future unknown is the results of what we do today!

Anyone disagree, please share your views.

The "Happiness" Mindset

2011-01-22T11:57:00.006+08:00

Below are the excerpts from a heart touching article which I received from a friend recently :

"Bai Fang Li, died 93 years old, lived in poverty. Yet he donated an aggregate sum of RMB350,000 to universities and schools in Tianjin to help 300 poor students in need."

For almost 20 years, he paddled his tricycle earning yuan by yuan to save up for his donations.

"It's alright I suffer,"he said, "but let the poor kids go to school".

90 years old, he arranged his last saving of RMB 500 neatly in a box and handed to Yao Hua school, saying, "I cannot paddle anymore. I am not able to donate anymore. This shall be my last .......". All the teachers and student in the school wept.

I believe not many of us will do the same thing as Mr. Bai Fang Li did! Anyway, I believe even live in poverty, the beloved Mr Bai was happy all the times!

I belive happiness will arise in our heart when we can define our own level of contentment and are not scare of others measuring our success and our wealth. Happiness does not come from external factor. It is in ourself!

Anyone disagree? Please share your thoughts.

" I Do " or " I Am Not Sure " Mindset

2010-11-28T23:16:00.005+08:00

"When we are old one day and we can't find anyone to take care of us, I will sit beside you on a bench and listen to your narration about how good you were when you were young! I don't mind what type of food we will be eating, I also do not know how to complain about anything, all I want is just to hold your hand tightly as I am your wife! I have dedicated my whole life to you, I had been your faithful follower ever since I was young, although I have seen many life events and happenings in this world, I do not find one thing that is more important than YOU! My dedication to you makes me realises that happiness is when we have " noises " around. When the departing moment has come, I will have to let you leave before me as it would be heartbreak for me to see you drop your tears for me! .......................". This is the lyric ( translated from a popular chinese song ) of a beautiful and meaningful song which I had just listened to a moment ago.

How many couples can really stick to their marriage vow nowaday? Before the marriage, many couple will tell each other that they will love and take care of each other till death separate them apart! I do not have the world divorce survey record, but by looking at the current scenario in the world, I have a feeling ( my feeling only! Please don't quote me! ), the divorce rate may have increased over the years. This beautiful and "modernised" world is full of many attractive and seductive things which can really blind and confuse the mind of the people nowaday! Money, luxurious lifestyle, sensual pleasure and sexual pleasure, these are some of the irresistable factors which can break up a family!

I like this beautiful and meaningful song very much as it reminds me of my late beloved mother. I can firmly say that my beloved mother fits in well to the description of the song. She had dedicated her whole life to my dad and our family. Her patience, her tolerance, her " take care of others first " attitude has really earned our highest respect! My beloved mother and father were a "victim" of the ancient mindset! Their marriage was pre-arranged by my grandparents. They did not have a chance to choose their life partner. Although my late beloved mother was an illiterate, she perfomed her duties as a wife very well. She went through all the "up and down" of life together with my dad. As for my dad, he also perfomed his duties as a husband and father very well. Although my dad was very bad temper, he did not neglect his duty as a good husband and father! No matter how busy he was, he will definitely find some time to be with us everyday. My highest respect to both of them!

I do hope to see that young couple can spend more time for each other every day. Communication is crucial for young couples as without it their hearts will start to wonder or fall apart easily. Based on my observation, nowaday, many younger couples are chasing for their dreams, some even work till they do not have time for each other! In my opinion, this is extremely dangerous as no one can guarantee whether the " lonely " heart of your beloved partner will start to wonder or be attracted by this modern society one day? Hahaha...... . Take care!

The " Surrender " Mindset

2010-11-21T16:07:00.012+08:00

A friend of mine just told me that he has surrender himself to his party and the leadership of his party. He will let his party to decide his future! What a great sacrifice by surrendering himself to his party and the leadership? Well, I am a bit puzzled over the word " SURRENDER "! I really do not understand what did he mean by surrender himself to the party and the leadership? ???????????

During my course of work, I did come across a no. of people who like to "surrender" themselves to their employer! They will just do whatever their boss tell them to do. Although they are aware that what they do will not give them the desired results or is not right, they will still blindly carry out the task which their boss told them to do. I really do not know why they need to do so?! To me personally, we are selling our services to our employer, if they do not appreciate it, why should we sell our service to them? It would be better for us to sell our service to someone who really know how to appreciate it. In this manner, both your employer and you would be happy.

Based on my shallow understanding, we can surrender our material things or even our physical body to anyone. However, should we also surrender our wisdom to others? Maybe different people may have different views! I hope my beloved readers will share your viewa with me.

" Believe or Do Not Believe "

2010-11-20T17:36:00.008+08:00

I received the horoscope for the year 2011 from a friend recently. I am wondering is this really important to us? Some people believe that it is good for us to know what is ahead of us! However, I believe that there is no one who can really guarantee the accuracy of the horoscope. I have an experience to have encountered with two sets of contradicting horoscope a few years ago. One horoscope predicted a good year ahead for me. The other horoscope predicted a very bad year for me. I was caught in the middle of nowhere! Should I believe the first set of horoscope or the second set? The first set was predicted by a well known local feng shui master, the second set was predicted by a renowned Hong Kong feng shui master. At the end of the day, I decided that why should my life be controlled by the horoscope? Come what may and I will face it accordingly! I believe if something bad is going to come to me during the coming year, why should I run away from it? Who knows it may become worse if I were to run away from it? It would be better for me to face and resolve it when it arises! I strongly believe that any bad events will be a thing of the past if we were to find ways to resolve it! Nothing in this world is permanent, same goes to our problem. If we were to put in the right efforts to define our problem, determine the actual cause of our problem, find the right solution and the right processes to solve our problem, our problem can definitely be resolved Anyway, I did not encounter any serious difficulties or problems during that year. Maybe it is because I have prepared myself mentally to face the challenges ahead of me.

Well, our mental wave is just like the radio wave, if we were to tune the frequency to the respective radio station, the station will go on air. Same goes to our mind, if we were to continuously focus or worry about something bad is going to happen to us, it will definitely come to us sooner or later! A simple reason is that we are tuning our mental frequency to the frequency of the "bad thing". Why should we waste our precious time to do such an unwholesome act to ourselves? How many horoscope in this world can really predict accurately all the incidences that are going to happen? Mankind tends to worry about the unwholesome thing, if there is a prediction in the horoscope that we are going to die next year, will it affect us? I would like to leave the answer to the readers of this post! Please share your views!

Lastly, I would like to say that believe or do not believe in the horoscope is a matter of choice! No one should control another over their belief system!

Think positive, Act positive and you will achieve Positive Results for the year 2011!".

May all beings have a Great and Fantastic Year 2011 ahead!

An Interesting " Tuition " Mindset!

2010-11-19T11:12:00.008+08:00

Just saw an interesting banner on the roadside advertises that a private tutition centre has produced many many many full " A " ( Distinction ) students. Based on what I understanding, many of the "full distinction" student just took up one or two subjects in the private tuition centre, however, the tuition centre is highlighting to the public with this great academic performance banner.

I do not know why are there so many private tuition centres have been set up in the country nowaday? Some of the interesting questions which appeared in my mind when I saw the advertisement were : What is the main cause of this sudden bloom of the "tuition" industry? Are there any problem with our education system? Are the teachers incompetent to teach the students? I am wondering why some of the tuition teachers who are from the public school can produce great "A" students in the tuition centre whereas they can't do it in the public school? etc........ . Is the blooming business of the private tuition centres an indication that the current education system and or the competency of the teachers need to be reviewed and improved accordingly? I really do not know! Maybe a survey from the parents should be carried out to assess the situation.

Anyway, I believe education begins at home. Parents should not just delegate this responsibility to the private tuition centres. They have to supervise, guide and ensure that their children do their homework. As the saying goes, " Charity begins at home ", I believe it is also appropriate to say that " Education begins at home! ". Anyone wants to share your comments?

Have A " Considerate " Mindset!

2010-11-05T23:28:00.008+08:00

I was speechless when I heard one of my friends told me that his neighbors really made him annoyed when they burnt the firecrackers the whole night through. His sleep was interrupted. He was having severe headache the next morning.

Recently, one of the religious devotees celebrated their religious festival in our country. With due respect, we shared their joy in celebrating the festival. However, if their happiness of celebrating the festival becomes the sorrow of others, I believe it is not right! According to my friend, his neighbor even throw the firecrackers into his house compound which exploded with very loud "bang" in his car porch which is just in front of his bed room! He was really mad about it! I believe we should be considerate towards each others when we are celebrating any festivals?

Mankind, be it of any race or any religious group, has high tendency to lost themselves and making wrong perception of others when they are celebrating any events! They will think that others will not mind if they are making huge noises because they are celebrating an event! Well, I believe whether others will mind or not, we have to respect the privacy of others. Be discipline in our own behavior and do not bring unhappiness to others is the utmost important aspect of our life! I have to emphasize that there is nothing wrong to celebrate any happy events, however, we must not bring any unhappiness towards others!

Just take an example, how many accident cases happen every year when people are celebrating the arrival of the coming new year and or any religious festivals? Do we want any of our family members to be the victims of these events? I still remember when I was young, during chinese new year, they will be many people lost their home due to fire because of firecrackers! Do we want to be a victim of this type of the fire?

May all beings be free from selfishness and be considerate of others' well-being!

Who Creates The " Depressed " Mindset?

2010-10-31T15:05:00.009+08:00

Depression seems to be in the rise in this modern society now! What has gone wrong? What are the causes of Depression? How should we prevent it from happening? How should we treat it?

I really do not know what has gone wrong in this so called "Modern Society". In fact, I also do not know why some people need to "show off" that they are living in a moden society?! How does the modern society benefit mankind? I cannot deny to certain extend that the modern society has improved the living standard in terms of material gain, sensual pleasure and or sexual pleasure of the people! However, in terms of human value, morality and health, I really do not know how people can reap any benefits from it! Nowaday, we can see more violent "killing" cases, vice activities and "modern" sickness ( are the "modern" society people more healthier tha the so called "Non Modern" society?) !

Nowaday, people are chasing for materialistic gain and fame, they have ignored the two little important words of life, they are : "Needs" and "Wants"! They spent more time chasing for their "Wants" instead of what they "Needs"! The more they spent their valuable time to chase after their wants, the more stressful they are at the end of the day! I still remember the analogy where someone told me the businessman are just like a cyclist! Once they are on their bicycle, they can't stop their feet movement! They have to continue to cycle till they reach their destination! If they stop cycling, they will fall! Mankind continues to chase after their "wants" is just like a cyclist! However, a cyclist has an ending point whereas people's want does not have any ending point! If they can achieve or get what they want, they will be on top of the world! However, if they do not get what they want, will they be happy? I believe the effect of long term unhappiness and living in the shadow of fear of others looking down upon or tease them will eventually lead them to Depression! Please correct me if I am wrong.

Should we lead our own life or should we let others to manage and or control our life? We have a choice! If we could have a clear mind, we definitely know how should we lead our life! Do not let our ego and pride lead us to terrible consequences - Depression!

May all beings be free from "Mental" and "Bodily" suffering always!

What a " Wonderful " Mindset!

2010-10-10T22:14:00.005+08:00

I was shocked when I heard a young mother told a salesgirl at a departmental store that her life has devastated after she had given birth to her first baby.

Nowaday, many young couples married based on " ideal " and or " romantic " concept. What they want is just to hold each other hands till death separate them apart. They do not want any additional family members to "interrupt or destroy" their " ideal " or " romantic " life!

Well, it is fair that if they do not want to have any additional family members, they have to take extra or additional precautions. They just can't have "pleasure" and do not want to face any "pressure" and also do not want to take any precautionary steps!!!

What a wonderful mindset does this mother has? Blaming the children for her own negligence and poor planning! Is it right? Isn't it funny? Just a silly thought, will their children blame them for bringing them to this world? Will their children condemn their for this irresponsible statement?! Many young couples nowaday are seriously looking for treatment for not able to conceive! I believe for those who can conceive and have a healthy baby, they should be grateful for it!

" To Be Positive " Or " To Be Realistic "?

2010-07-28T22:58:00.006+08:00

I believe many of us will have great difficulties to choose between to be positive or to be realistic when we are facing challenges! I had come across many businessman who are facing this problem. They are usually lost at this crossroad! Just to share a good example is : recently, one of my friends who was once upon a time a well known property developer has been greatly affected by the economic slowdown and is facing a real serious financial problem. One of his creditors has filed a petition to the Court to wind up his company. He is very frustrated and he told me that why nobody can see the future like what he sees! According to him, the total gross development value of all his projects has exceeded RM4 billion and why the people do not want to give him a chance! Currently, he is not only facing the problem with the creditors, he is also facing the problem with his bankers. He has been given one month to resolve the issue with the said creditor if he wants to stop the winding up petition! As the amount involved is too large, I really do not know how he is going to settle the matter with the said creditor! Some of my friends who are financial advisers told me that unless he is willing to dispose off some of his projects or there is a "white knight" to rescue him, or else that's the end of his company. From what I am aware, this friend of mine is highly egoistic and very "kiatsu" type of person, I really do not know whether he will take the advice of the financial advisers?! Anyway, that's his life and I wish him all the best!

I believe many of us will face or had faced this type of situation before where you have to choose between to be positive or to be realistic! How to be positive if you are avoiding reality? How to face the reality if you are not positive? It is a real tricky question! Anyway, I believe they have to come in pair!

Anyone has any views to share?

Is This " Right Thing Right " ?

2010-07-26T22:43:00.010+08:00

Teachers can go into politics!

I believe this is a real interesting topic to discuss about. I do not know how many people will support and how many of people will oppose the idea! If a teacher were to join a political party, I really do not know how he can segregate his duty as a teacher and a politician?!

I believe teachers are the most important person in our life, they teach us what is right and what is wrong! By joining a political party, can the teacher have an impartial views towards what he sees and what he does? I do not know.

I believe the duty and the responsibility of a teacher is not just restricted to helping the students to achieve academic excellence. They have to help to inculcate moral values, discipline and provide the right guidance to the students to lead a right and healthy life!

Have you ever seen a politician who praises his opposition party for doing a good job? I do not know! So far what I have seen is politicians busy "digging" another party faults and highlighting them to the whole world so that they can gain more supporters! In order for the politicians to do it, they will have to instill hatred towards all the members within the party so that they will dislike the other party and help them to "dig" whatever that are unfavorable to the opposition party!

Can a person who will instill hatred towards other guides us on the right path? Please share your views!

" Tools " vs " Heart "

2010-06-05T09:01:00.005+08:00

I just heard of an interesting story about my friend's parent in laws. Her parent in laws like to quarrel everyday. It seems like a daily affair where they will "poke" at each other and start the quarrelling. Both their age add up is more than 140 years old. With their age I do not believe that they do not know how to communicate! People with more than 70 years of communicating experience still have problem in communicating with each others?!

We can invent the best and most advanced comminucation tools in the world, however, if people refuse to communicate or "no heart" to talk to each others, the tools become useless! I still remember I had seen a documentary program about a shipyard which is about 100 years old. One of the directors of the shipyard told the interviewer that when they started the shipyard, they did not luxury of having the communication tools such as handphone, walkie talkie or any wireless devices, however, they still complete the ships and delivered to their customers on time!

What is the real cause of communication problem now? The communication tools or the " Heart and Attitude " of the people?

Anyone to share your views?

" I Don't Care " Mindset!

2010-05-22T11:39:00.009+08:00

" Paralysed Girl Gets RM800,000 "

The above was the headline highlighted in one of today's newspaper. A tragic accident more than 10 years ago left the girl paralysed from the chest down.

I believe different people may have different views towards the above news. Some people may say that what is the point of getting the compensation where you are paralysed? Some may say, "Wow, got so much money! ".

Sometime, I do not understand why some people can take life so lightly. They thought that every problem can be solved by money! Recently, I met with an accident. My car was "banged" by a pick up van from behind. The very first thing the driver said when he came out from the car was : " Just dented only. No problem la, you can claim from my insurance company. My insurance company is very efficient, you can get the claim very fast! No need to worry! ". I was utterly disappointed with the attitude of the driver! He did not even ask me whether I or the passengers in my car were hurt? He was more concern about the car! The worst part was that, he did not even regret over his mistake and apologise! In his mind, he thought that he has insurance coverage, why worry?! Insurance company will help him to solve his problem! I was sad to find out later that, he is a "horrible" driver! He has bad driving attitude and used to knock at people very often!

I believe some people need a critical incident to attain realisation! Sometime, it would be too late for them to realise if that critical incident were to take place. Why can't people "wake up" by themselves? Any good advice for this type of people?

Is This An "Illogical" Or "Logical" Mindset?

2010-05-14T21:59:00.008+08:00

" What would happen if your "Golden Dragon" fish dies?" I asked my friend who is a devout follower of feng shui when I visited him recently. My friend just ignored my above question and turn his back to me. I believe he was unhappy over my question. He is a person who is very superstitious. He might think that my question will bring him bad luck! Hahaha..... .

I do not know why some people think that their life can be improved by rearing fishes, putting plants in their house etc etc.... . I do not know what would happen if their fishes or plants die, will their life be affected? Well, I believe no one can control or guarantee the life span of the fishes and plants so that they won't die before we die?

Should we control our life or should we let the external factors to control our life? My friend is rearing the golden dragon fish, however, his life is controlled by the fish? We are the "servant" or "maid" to the fish? Is it logical? I do not know! Please share your valuable views.

The Last Rite!

2010-04-15T22:47:00.043+08:00

What a wonderful thing to be tagged by Lian of Loving Kindness @ Samsara. Thanks Lian for your kind thought. I will do my part accordingly.

The rules of this little tag game are:

1) Go to your photo files, select the 8th photo folder.

2) Select the 8th photo in that folder.

3) Post that photo along with the story behind it

4) Then challenge 8 blogging friends to do the same!

So, I will tag the following people for the game:

1) Jasper - Control Your Destiny http://controlyourdestiny.wordpress.com/2010/04/13/2269/ )

2) Alma - Live, Love, Laugh With Philly 5113 http://philly5113.blogspot.com/

3) Sara - The Breathing Post http://www.thebreathingpost.com/
4) Kim - Stuff Could Always Be Worse http://stuffcouldalwaysbeworse.blogspot.com/

5) Md Abdul Maleque - Physiofuru http://physioforu.blogspot.com/

6) Grace D Chong - Leaves Of Grace http://www.leavesofgrace.blogspot.com/

7) Colin Myles - Grow and Succed http://www.colinmyles.blogspot.com/

8) Say Lee - Going Global http://globallee.blogspot.com/

The above picture is the 8th picture in my photo file. I just love this photo because it reminds me that all of us will have to go through this last rite! The above last rite was for my mum. It was a simple but meaningful ceremony where the prayer was done before her body was being sent to the crematorium. I am glad that mum lived till the age of 92. I really do not know how many people in this world can live till the age of 90 now.

Mum, if your consciousness is still around us, may I take this opportunity to wish you, "May You Be Well And Happy In Your Next Life! Please do not worry about us!".

Where Does Happiness Come From?

2010-04-01T21:52:00.009+08:00

I just came across the below thought provoking statement :

Ask yourselves, ''Why was I born?'' Some people don't know. They want to be happy but the suffering never stops. Rich or poor, young or old, they suffer just the same. And why? Because they have no wisdom. The poor are unhappy because they don't have enough, and the rich are unhappy because they have too much to look after.

I just couldn't disagree with the above statement! Where is the cut off point? Different people may have different perception! Happy or unhappy is a stage of mind!

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

The "Never Ending Problem" Of Mankind!

2010-03-30T22:55:00.026+08:00

"What are the causes of mankind's never ending problems?"

My opinion is : our moral conduct! I believe there are few important moral conducts we have to observe in order for us to eliminate or not to create new problems! There are :

1. Taking the life of others because they are the "stumbling block" towards our progress!

2. Taking things that do not belong to us.

3. Commit sexual misconduct!

4. Not truthful in our speech!

5. Taking intoxicating foods or drinks.

How can we lead a peaceful life if we to break the above moral conducts? We will always live in the shadow of fear! Just to share some examples : If we have killed someone, we are afraid of people taking revenge, if we steal or taking things that do not belong to us (which includes accepting bribe!), we will worry that people may find out and report to the authority, if we have committed sexual misconduct, we will worry that we may contract life threatening diseases and also scare that our spouse may find out and be divorced! If we were to tell lie, we will worry that others may find out the truth and we have to continuously create a big lie to cover the previous lie. If we were to take intoxicants such as drugs, we will worry that our employer may find out and terminate our service and also we will worry that police may arrest us one day!

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

Can We Escape From Reality?

2010-03-13T12:35:00.005+08:00

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I saw the above advertisement a few days ago. I am wondering what are the "active ingredients" of this product? This amazing product really challenges the ageing process?! As for side effects, the advertiser did not mention anything about it! I really do not know how far it is true.

Anyway, I believe those who are scare of growing old will be attracted by this advertisement! I am wondering how would a 80 years old man look like after using the product? An old face with a young skin? I am really curious and interested to find out one day!

Well, why are people so afraid to grow old? What is the problem of growing old? The below interesting question always linger in my mind whenever I come across this type of situation, "Do we have problem when we were young?".

Please share your views!

Which Is More Important? Yourself or Your Belongings?

2010-03-08T12:40:00.011+08:00

I just came across an article in the newspaper that a pet owner has decided to spend RM10K for advertisements just to locate his lost pet.

When a person lost his belongings such as properties, pets or any material items, it is natural that he will be panic ( lost his or her mind) and do whatever they can just to search for it! However, when a person has lost himself, do you think he will be panic and find ways to search himself? Usually, they will just keep quiet over the issues and let thing takes its own course.

I really do not know whether human being is more concerned about losing "things ( such as money, properties, pet, fame etc...)" that are outside their body and mind rather than within their body and mind!

Anyone has any ideas to share?

" How Should We Leave This World? "

2010-02-22T23:47:00.010+08:00

" How Should We Leave This World? ".

I believe the above question is a very scary question for some of us to think about! I do not know how many of us really think of the question before. Anyway, I believe this is a very meaningful question which all of us should reflect on! Whether we like it or not, we have to face it one day! Life is uncertain, Death is certain!

Should we leave this world with regrets? Should we leave this world with a beautiful smile on our face? Should we leave this world with our mouth and eyes open widely? Should we leave this world with lots of worries? Should we leave this world with multiple injuries and blood all over our body? Well, many people think that we should not waste our time to think of this question! However, based on my experience of seeing people on their last thought moment, my view is that we should think of this meaningful question before the time comes! I had seen how the "yet to be reborn" people struggle during their last thought moment. It is a very painful and pitiful sight!

I believe no one will believe our life is so fragile that we depend largely on our breath. No one can tell us when our "breathing system is going to breakdown!", no one can and no one may! Just to share a real story of my aunt. This aunt of mine was so healthy and strong that she will go for her Tai Chi exercise every morning. Yesterday afternoon, she told my cousin to go to the opposite shop to buy her some foodstuff. My cousin immediately went over to the shop and bought her the foodstuff. After my cousin returned from the shop, he saw my aunt sleeping motionlessly on a reclining chair. He went over to call her and found that she has left the world. Thirty minutes ago, my aunt was talking to his son and thirty minutes later, she has left the wordl. No one was there to bid farewell to her. Anyway, I was told by my cousin that my aunt left the world with a beautiful smile. May she be well and happy in her next life!

My dear friends, do you agree with me that we should reflect on the above question seriously before the time comes? Please share your valuable views!

Can We Improve " Human Touch " With Advance Communication Tools?

2010-01-26T10:57:00.012+08:00

I was watching a documentary film in the television recently. The program talked about how the Chinese from China have created their business empire in one of the states in our country. According to some of them, when they started their shipyard, they built all the ships without any engineering drawings, any advance equipments and tools! What really impressed me about what they said is not how they built the ship but the TEAMWORK of all their employees! How all the employees can stick together and work towards one common goal?

Human being knows the importance of TEAMWORK. They are aware of the best ways to work together, however, when there are differences in views, most of the people will tend to forget the most effective way to resolve their differences. They tend to stick to their own views and refuse to open up their mind to listen to the views of others.

With the advancement of the information technology, advance telecommunication tools and equipments, I believe people should be able to work together more closely. However, I am a bit disappointed to note that although with the advance tools and equipments, people can communicate more effectively, however, the " human touch " does not seem to get closer. In fact, it is getting wider and wider!

One of my friends who owns a three storey house told me this real life story. Everytime when dinner is served, he has to use his handphone to call all his children on the top floor to come down to have dinner together. After the dinner, all his children will run up to the top floor again to do their own work. As my friend is suffering from knee problem, he could not run up and down of the staircase too frequently. He and his beloved wife will have to stay at ground floor to watch television. He told me he regretted to buy the three storey house as he is now having lesser contact hours with his children. He can just communicate with his children via handphone!

Is communication tools or equipments the only way to improve human relationship? Anyone care to share your view?

" Human Beings Are Saddists ?! "

2010-01-25T23:04:00.006+08:00

I do not know what to say when I heard one of my friends said that " Human Beings Are Saddist!". Well, what was in my mind at the time was this question : Is it true?

Anyway, I do notice that whenever we see someone making any mistake, we will laugh! Just take an example of the show " Mr Bean ". Why people laugh when they see Mr Bean making mistake or silly act! Is it that they are happy???? I really do not know the reason behind! Can anyone enlighten me on this? Why should we be happy when we see others making mistake or fail in whatever they do?

Whenever there is War, the winner will be very happy when they see that their opponent has been defeated! When in business, the businessman will be very happy to see their competitors fail in their business! When there is any sports competition, the winning party will be very happy to see that their opponent is defeated. It seems finding others' mistakes or weakness is the most happiest thing for us in this world!

I understand that there are always two sides of a coin. However, do we need to be very happy when we see others fail?! I do not have the answer. Anyone can share your views?

What An Unclear Mindset?

2010-01-13T11:30:00.007+08:00

A few days ago, I read from the newspaper that some religious fanatics had carried out the arson attack on the places of worship of other religion. I am deeply sadden by the incident.

I remember many many years back I came across a saying by a wise man i.e " you can destroy the place of worship of a religion, however, you can't destroy the religious teaching as they are in heart and mind of the devotees!". I pity the building! Hahaha.....

If we are unhappy or unsatisfied over any issues, it would be better for us to find out the causes of the problem rather than to release our frustration and anger on the buildings, tables, chairs and so on. I believe if we can clearly define our problem, we can find the causes of our problem, and if we can find out the causes of the problem, we can definitely find a solution to resolve the problem.

We are human, we have a mind, we are not like the dogs and cats where they can't think rationally. We should engage our mind power to resolve problem. We should not let our emotion to control us!!!

Any different views? Please share.

"Thoughts", "Words" And "Action" !

2010-01-10T22:43:00.019+08:00

" May I be free from enmity
free from ill-will and un-trouble
may I keep myself happily
may I keep myself happily ...................

May all my neighbours be free from enmity
free from ill-will and un-trouble
may they keep themselves happily
may they keep themselves happily................

May all beings be free from enmity

free from ill-will and un-trouble
may they keep themselves happily

may they keep themselves happily! "

I heard someone reciting this wonderful verses this morning. I believe if all of us were to recite this verses SINCERELY and MINDFULLY ( that is with full concentration and the awareness of what you are reciting ) every day, the world will be a much better place for us to stay!

Well, I believe some people may be asking why the above verses start from " May I be free from ..... " and not from " May we be free from...... "? I believe this is a very good and valid question! Some school of thought think that this is rather selfish! However, there are also some school of thought think that we should practise : "It Begins With Me! ".

Anyway, I believe the main focus here is not on whether the verses should start from " May I be free from ...... " or " May we be free from........ ". The main focus should be on whether the person who is reciting the verses is really sincere and mindful about what he or she is reciting!

A good question for reflection : " How many of us really align our thoughts and our actions ? "

The " Idealistic " Mindset!

2009-11-29T23:00:00.010+08:00

Many people think that when they have enough money, then they will only have time to sit down and enjoy life with their children. Do you agree with this type of assumption?

As for me personally, I do not agree with the above statement! Based on the above statement, the very first question that comes to my mind is : " How much is enough? ". As we are all aware, the level of "enough" is not the same for everyone! I have seen many friends when they are in financial difficulties, they told me they just need a little bit of financial assistance then they will be very happy! However, when financial assistance had been provided for them, their desire of getting more become very intense! Their unhappiness re-appear and they put themselves back into a miserable life! I really do not know why some people like to jump into the " cycle of suffering ". From one type of suffering jumps into another type of suffering! I believe our non mindfulness of watching our mind can really create a lot of miseries for ourselves!

I have come across many hawkers and laborers who are not earning " big " money but they are leading a happy life with their family. They know how much is enough for them and they know how to lead their life based on their steady inflow of income! In fact, one of my relatives, who is a roadside hawker, has "produced" two doctors and one engineer in the family. I have also come across a client who is a millionaire but he is not happy all the time. He is unhappy because he still can't get his desired first billion ringgit! For this client of mine, he is already 65 years old.

So, can we wait till we have enough money then only enjoy life together with the family?

The answer is in your hand!

The " Non Forgiveness " Mindset

2009-11-26T22:23:00.007+08:00

Is forgiveness such a difficult task for us?

Many people believe that forgiveness is such an easy thing! When someone approaches us to say that so and so had offended him or her, most of the time we will tell them to forgive the offender. However, when someone has offended us, we will get stuck and at time our mind just refused to let go and tell us not to forgive the offender.

As at todate, I still have not come across any religion who teaches us not to forgive those who have offended us! Almost all religions in the world teach us to forgive and forget those who has offended us, however how many people really follow the teaching? Sometime I feel amuzed to know that even the Divine Being does not forgive those who sin against Him and "send" those who sin against him to etrenal Hell! If I have misunderstood the message of the Divine Being, I hope some kind hearted people could enlighten me!

I believe the practise of forgiveness doesn't apply only to just all the lay people! It also applies to country to country! If forgiveness cannot be practised in this world, can we live in a peaceful world?

A few good questions for us to ponder before I end this post:

1. What is pulling us from forgiving those who has offended us? Our Ego? Our Pride? or ....... ? ".

2. Will our " Non Forgiveness " mindset be the root cause of our future problem?

3. Can " Non Forgiveness " mindset helps us to resolve our problem?

4. Will " Non Forgiveness " leads to more problems?

5. Can we be more happy if we were to let go the " Non Forgiveness " mindset?

Please share your thoughts!

What A Belief?

2009-11-19T21:02:00.012+08:00

Some people believe that when everything goes wrong with them or not on their side, they are having bad luck. They need to go to the religious places to do prayer to ward off their bad luck! I really do not know how far it is true! What I believe is that after they have performed their prayer, irrespective of whether the Divine Being is helping them or not, psychologically they will have more confidence in whatever they do!

Some people maybe saying that prayer does not help one to solve their problem or ward off their bad luck. Well, I believe when a person is having problem, his mind will not be stable and his confidence level will be low! This is the time when they will seek or look for spiritual support. Let us look at this example, when the economical situation is getting worse, we can see more people going to the religious places to seek blessings from the Divine Being! Another good example is : we can see more people seeking consultation from the astrologers or palmists to boost up their confidence.

As the saying goes, " Mind is the forerunner of all conditioned things! ". If your mind tell you you can do it, I believe you will definitely find a way to do it! ". If you believe after you have done your prayer and the Divine Being is with you or giving you His full support, this will immediately boost up your confidence! With your full confidence, whatever challenges you are going to face, you will be able to overcome it.

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

Who Makes Our Life Miserable?

2009-10-30T18:02:00.017+08:00

My friend told me that he advised his son not to come back to our country after he has graduated from his study in foreign country. I asked him why and he told me all the negative apects of our country. What a pessimistic person my friend is! I strongly believe we should not look at thing in only one aspect! We should look at thing in totality!

Based on what he told me, my opinion is that he has forgotten that he was born in this country, he had his education in this country, he was married in this country, all his children were born in this country, he earns his living in this country to support his family and ............. no matter what negative views he has on this country, he still live comfortably in this country and support all his children to study in foreign country! If our country is so bad like what he said, I believe he won't be able to survive in this country! Based on what I know from him, he has 3 landed properties in the niche housing estate rented out to expatriates. I really do not know why he is still having such a negative view towards the country! In my opinion, if he were to open up his mindset and look at thing in totality, maybe he will change his view.

I believe my friend is not the odd one. Many people are also having this type of mindset. People tends to be so "forgetful" that they are now enjoying a good living! They just like to pick up one or two issues which are not to their benefits and harp on it!

I remember of a story which I read a few weeks ago, the story goes like this : There is a man who met a President of a well developed country and asked him what he wanted to do with his neighboring small country. The President told him that he is going to have war with the country, kill all the citizen who go against him and also a bicycle repairman so that his country can take over the small country. The man immediately asked the President why he needs to kill the bicycle repairman??????????

The moral of the story is that : mankind tends to look at extreme or some small mistake made by others and focus or harp on it. Just imagine why can't the man asked the President why he intends to kill so many people instead of just concern about the bicycle repairman?!

For those who possess the mindset of looking at thing in one aspects, I believe it is high time for them to learn to look at thing in totality so that their mind will not be clouded and become pessimistic! Life is uncertain, death is certain! Why waste our precious time just to focus on negative thing and make our life miserable!

Should We Watch Our Mind?

2009-10-26T16:08:00.009+08:00

I do not know what the buddhist monk was talking to the young lady in the middle of the night i.e 11.45pm. However, based on the banners which were sticked on the wall, he claims himself to be the Chief Abbot of a renowned temple in China. He also claims himself to be an expert in Feng Shui and can predict the future of a person. I really do not understand why a Chief Abbot of a renowned temple in China is providing this type of service to the public?!

Well, I believe there are many ways to look at this photo.

A) Negative View

1. Is the above monk really a Chief Abbot of a temple? Why is he still hanged around outside his temple in the middle of the night? How can we verify his identity?

2. Is the above buddhist monk "qualified" to do the counselling work?

3. Can the above monk guide the young lady on the Right Path? Will he make the matter worse?

B) Positive View

1. The buddhist monk is so kind-hearted that he even help people in the middle of the night.

Anyway, I believe for those who are having problem and really really in need of the spiritual guidance, he or she must go to the right place to seek for assistance.

I believe when people are in trouble, their mind are confused and they can't differentiate what is wrong and what is right! This is the moment when those so called " intelligent holy people " will take advantage of the sitution. Recently there were many cases reported in the newspaper that bogus monks are creating fear for those who seek their assistance and cheat them of their money accordingly. Anyway, I believe as long as we constantly watch our mind and are mindful of what we are doing, we won't fall into this type of trap!

Any views to share?

The " End Of The World " Mindset

2009-10-08T21:44:00.019+08:00

Recently, I received an email from a friend with the title :

" Life is short for the human race because... the End Of The World is Year 2012 "

I wonder is it important for us to know when will be the end of the world? I believe this type of message will create discomfort or panicky situation for the people. As I can still remember, I have been hearing people saying about the end of the world is coming soon for many many years. However, after some time, a new message will come out to tell people that the Divine Being loves mankind so much that He is sending someone down to the Earth to save all the mankind.

I believe whatever arises in this world, there will definitely be an end to it one day! Change is the only constant in this world! This is a fact and I believe no one can deny this fact! Anyway, I believe if we have done our part as a good human, why should we worry about the end of the world! If it is really true that the world is going to end by the year 2012, can anyone do anything to STOP the process?

As we are aware, there are many many people "leaving" this beautiful world every minute and every second! In fact, we also do not know when will be our turn to depart from this beautiful world?!

Mankind really has an interesting and funny character! They just do not want to focus on how to live now but worry about what is going to happen next! They have forgotten that all the "tomorrow" begins with today!

The " Right Or Wrong Path " ?

2009-10-04T22:22:00.002+08:00

"It doesn't matter how you earn your money. As long as you are rich, no one will question you!". This is the exact words one of my friends told his son. I do not know will this words imprint in his son's mind. I am really worried that his son may misinterpret what my friend has told him.

I can still rememeber a goldsmith shop in the biggest shopping complex in our country many many years ago. The owner of the goldsmith shop was living in a luxurious house and was driving a luxurious car. He sold his gold products at a cheaper price than all his competitors. All the customers were crazy over his products because of the cheaper rate. His business was overwhelming and the shop was packed with customers everyday. One day, the owner was caught, he was identified by the Police as the mastermind for all the robbery of the goldsmith shops in the country. People admire him because of his richness! Yes, it's true that no one questions him where he got the gold and the money. When he was caught by the Police, no one pities him. All his customers also start to worry whether will they also be in trouble because of purchasing the "stolen products" from him.

Based on the above real life story, I believe we really have to guide our younger generations on what is the "Right Thning Right". If we were to tell our younger generations the above words, we have to make sure that we say it clearly so that they won't misinterpret our words. No ambiguous words should be used to guide our younger generations.

We have to make sure we don't mislead or misguide our younger generations, or else the world will be in great trouble.

The " Sexy Is Pretty " Mindset

2009-10-04T22:18:00.013+08:00

Two days ago, one of my colleagues told the senior colleague to wear a more sexy dress to her wedding dinner. She told the elderly colleague that she will look more pretty if she wear more sexily! I really do not know how the young lady define pretty and sexy? Pretty is Sexy? Sexy is Pretty?

Nowaday, we can see many advertisements in the media which encourage ladies to "modify" their body or skin so that they can look more pretty! I remembered what my mother told me before. She said we must maintain natural beauty all the time rather than to focus on artificial beauty. If we maintain natural beauty, we do not need to worry about side effect later. If it is a "modify" beauty, we will be living in the shadow of fear. We do not know the side effect of the "materials" used for modification purpose! Most of the "materials " used for the modification purpose will not show their side effect immediately. The side effect will only surface after a period of time! I have come across a lady who went for bust enhancement program and later diagnosed with breast cancer. I do not know whether it is a coincidence or a side effect.

Recently, I came across another real life interesting story of a middle-aged lady who went to seek consultation from a so-called face reading expert. She requested the expert to anlayse her future based on her face. After analysing her face, the first question the expert asked her was : "Did you "modify" your nose, your eyelid and remove any moles on your face before?". The lady said yes. According to the young lady, she had done some minor surgery to make her nose higher and to have double eyelid. She has also removed two moles on her face. According to the expert, the accuracy of analysing her future based on her "modified" face will be affected. He told her that if she has a flat nose, her life will be more easier. He also told her that the two moles which she had removed are the "lucky moles"!

I believe we should feel proud of what we have. We are unique in our own way! Why should we modify our body or wear sexily to project that we are pretty? If your spouse hold on to the view that sexy is pretty, you have to find a way to ask your spouse this question : Would you still love me if my face is full of wrinkles and all my muscles are sagging? Hahaha..... .

Do we mean an old lady with all the muscles sagging and can't wear sexy dress is not pretty? I do not think so. Just to share with all my blogger friends, my mother who was at her death bed at the age of 94 years was very pretty! Although she can't wear sexily on her death bed, the love she showered on us made her pretty forever and ever!

Any disagreement? Please share your view.

The "Image" Mindset

2009-10-04T22:10:00.011+08:00

A few days ago, a real estate agent told me he was shocked when he met one of his potential clients. He told me I would not believe his client is a multi-millionaire if I were to meet him. He told me that his client is a elderly farmer living in a rural area. He is living in a wooden house with his wife. All his children are either doctor or engineer. Although all his children are professionals, financially well to do, living in the niche housing estate and driving luxurious car, he still maintains a very low profile life style. He does not wear branded dress or shoe, he does not have any credit card, he does not wear any expensive watch, he does not go to any porch restaurant except when he is invited for function. However, he owns a large piece of land in a prestigious urban area.

I have seen many people when they are a bit well to do, they will try to show off. One of my neighbours belongs to this group of people. When he was just an insurance agent, he was driving a national car which is just 1500c.c. . When he was promoted as Agency supervisor, he immediately changes his car. He is now driving a branded 3000c.c luxurious car. From what I understand, his income is not stable and he is having difficulty in repaying his car loan. However, according to him, it is alright if he is not rich, but the image must be maintained! I really do not understand what does he mean! Do not have enough money to service the car loan, but still insist to drive the luxurious car because of "Image".

I know of another businessman, whenever he didn't service his car loan, he will hide his car somewhere. He insisted that he will not sell the car because "IMAGE"! Well, I do not understand the theory behind all this "Image" matter.

I believe we must live within our means! Why should we let our life to be measured, managed and controlled by others? If we succumb to others' measurement, we will start to commit ourselves heavily without oursleves knowing it just to live up to the expectation of others. Are we doing any justice to ourselves!

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

Who Should Guide The Younger Generations?

2009-09-21T11:34:00.021+08:00

I was surprised to see the indifferent attitude of a young lady when I was at a retail store yesterday. The young lady was searching for some electrical products at a retail store. When she was searching for her electrical product, a packet of goods dropped down from the shelf. The packet of goods landed in front of her legs. As I was curious to know how she would respond to it, I stand there for a few minutes just to observe her response. I was rather disppointed to see that she just ignored the packet of goods which was on the floor. A question immediately comes to my mind, I was thinking if she is the owner of the store, would she expect her customer to help pick up the packet of goods and place it back to the shelf?! I believe she might be thinking that this is non of my business, why should I care about it! I am just a customer of the retail store. I really do not know how the younger generations are being "moulded" up nowaday? I also do not know whether helping people is considered as a good value to the younger generations? I believe all the parents and teachers should review how we should "mould" our younger generations?!

I still remember the story of a robber who bites off the nipples of his mother during his last moment with his mother. He blamed and scolded his mother for not guiding him the right value in life! When he was in a primary school, he always "take" his classmate's pencil or pencil box back to his house. His mother did not scold or punish him. When he was in seconday school, he used to "take" protection money from his classmates or schoolmates. His mother also did not check with him on how and where he gets his money? When he left school, he started to rob people of their belongings. Eventually, he was involved in a gun robbery. He was caught and was sentenced to death by the Judge.

Who should guide our younger generations on the right value in life? The Government, the teachers or the parents? I believe we really need to look at this matter seriously before it becomes worse and affect the society!

Cultivating "Right Thing Right (RTR) " Mindset

2009-09-20T12:47:00.026+08:00

After reading the below article which I came across recently, it makes me to think profoundly why mankind needs to go round and round to search for "magical food" to maintain their health?! Nowaday, there are many people going round and round to search for "magical food" to maintain their health. Some of these "magical foods" are not cheap and consumers are advised to take it together with some other supplements. I believe if we are discipline in our mind and thoughts, we can differentiate between the two simple words of "Need" and "Want", we can save a lot of our money and trouble to look for the "magical food" to reduce the toxins in our body. In fact, I have come across some wealthy people who just depend on the magical food to maintain their health. They have totally ignored the importance of the "food for our mind" and physical exercise! I believe food for our mind, physical body and exercise are equally importance to maintain our health. I would also like to thank Dr Shigeaki Hinohara for his sharings. Kindly read the below article and share your views.

"97 Years Old Doctor And This Is What He Has To Say.... "

Doctor Shigeaki Hinohara

Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot. We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. I believe that we can keep that attitude as adults, too. It's best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime.

All people who live long regardless of nationality, race or gender share one thing in common:None are overweight... For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Olive oil is great for the arteries and keeps my skin healthy. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. I never get hungry because I focus on my work.. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat..

Always plan ahead. My schedule book is already full until 2014, with lectures and my usual hospital work. In 2016 I'll have some fun, though: I plan to attend the Tokyo Olympics!
There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. The current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years and only 125 Japanese were over 100 years old. Today, Japanese women live to be around 86 and men 80, and we have 36,000 centenarians in our country. In 20 years we will have about 50,000 people over the age of 100...

Share what you know. I give 150 lectures a year, some for 100 elementary-school children, others for 4,500 business people. I usually speak for 60 to 90 minutes, standing, to stay strong.
When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can't cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery I think music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.

To stay healthy, always take the stairs and carry your own stuff. I take two stairs at a time, to get my muscles moving.

My inspiration is Robert Browning's poem "Abt Vogler." My father used to read it to me. It encourages us to make big art, not small scribbles. It says to try to draw a circle so huge that there is no way we can finish it while we are alive. All we see is an arch; the rest is beyond our vision but it is there in the distance.

Pain is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. If a child has a toothache, and you start playing a game together, he or she immediately forgets the pain. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke's we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.

Don't be crazy about amassing material things. Remember: You don't know when your number is up, and you can't take it with you to the next place.

Hospitals must be designed and prepared for major disasters, and they must accept every patient who appears at their doors. We designed St.... Luke's so we can operate anywhere: in the basement, in the corridors, in the chapel. Most people thought I was crazy to prepare for a catastrophe, but on March 20, 1995, I was unfortunately proven right when members of the Aum Shinrikyu religious cult launched a terrorist attack in the Tokyo subway. We accepted 740 victims and in two hours figured out that it was sarin gas that had hit them. Sadly we lost one person, but we saved 739 lives.

Science alone can't cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.

Life is filled with incidents. On March 31, 1970, when I was 59 years old, I boarded the Yodogo, a flight from Tokyo to Fukuoka. It was a beautiful sunny morning, and as Mount Fuji came into sight, the plane was hijacked by the Japanese Communist League-Red Army Faction. I spent the next four days handcuffed to my seat in 40-degree heat. As a doctor, I looked at it all as an experiment and was amazed at how the body slowed down in a crisis.

Find a role model and aim to achieve even more than they could ever do. My father went to the United States in 1900 to study at DukeUniversity in North Carolina. He was a pioneer and one of my heroes. Later I found a few more life guides, and when I am stuck, I ask myself how they would deal with the problem.

It's wonderful to live long. Until one is 60 years old, it is easy to work for one's family and to achieve one's goals. But in our later years, we should strive to contribute to society Since the age of 65, I have worked as a volunteer. I still put in 18 hours seven days a week and love every minute of it.

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A " Stubborn " Mindset

2009-09-18T11:54:00.004+08:00

One of my neighbors told me that he is suffering from insomnia. According to him, his sickness may be due to his previous employment schedule. He was a flight steward before. He opted for voluntary separation scheme two years ago. According to him, since the day he left his employment, he is unable to sleep every night. He was putting the blame on his previous employment.

Based on my observation, he is a very stubborn person. He refuses to accept others' opinions and advices. This is not the first time he is telling me about his problem. In fact, I and my other neighbors had been advising him to change his lifestyle. However, he just " brushed " our advice away. He continues to enjoy his life every night till early next morning then only he returns to his house.

In my opinion, this is a mindset problem. A person who refuses to be " open " and " let go " his own view. In fact, he is not the only person in this world that is facing this type of mindset problem, i.e unable to manage his mind and let the " thoughts " that are created in the mind to control thier life!

Just to share an example how our thoughts created in our mind can control us if we don't control them, take the example of a rapist or a robber, what would happen to him if he can't control his mind, all the evil thoughts in his mind will overrule him and " push " him to commit the evil action!

I strongly believe that no one can control our mind unless we surrender our right to let others to control it! I understand that this neighbor of mine has sought the help of some religious groups, however, due to his " stubbornness ( he thinks he is better than all them! ) ", no effective results have been achieved. This is a very obvious case that if a person is highly egoistic and refuses to be open and let go his own wrong views, no one can help him or her!

Please share your view!

" Normalize It " Mindset

2009-09-15T16:07:00.010+08:00

I came to know that one of my colleagues is afraid to attend wake. According to him whenever he had attended any wake, he will fall sick seriously and the worst thing is that he will have bad luck for the next few months. Picture courtesy of Science Agogo

Recently, I created a joke out of him. I told him that he should attend more wakes to increase his positive mental energy. I told him that he won't die by attending more wakes. In fact, I believe it would be better for him. I believe some superstitous person will be saying that I am MAD! Yes, I am MAD, I want to Make A Difference (MAD). I do not want him to continue to live in the shadow of FEAR! I want to help him to overcome his FEAR! I believe what I do is right! In fact, the reasons behind my jokes are, if he were to attend more wakes:

1. he will slowly become "immune" to it.
2. his fear towards superstitious matter will also disappear slowly
3. for every wake he attends, he will surely learn something about life! e.g " life is uncertain, death is certain ", " Everything in this world is subjected to Impermanance ", " how should we leave this world " etc......... .

Well, I do not deny or rule out that the " spirit " or the " consciousness of the deceased " is around during the wake. However, I believe the deceased will not "hurt" anyone since the deceased is in a " transition period " to go to another plane of existence.

I share with this colleague a real story of another friend. This friend of mine is very scared of ghosts! He told me that he won't go near to any cemetery because there are many ghosts there. However, when he had fallen in love with a girl who is living nearby a cemetery, he has forgotten that he is afraid of ghosts! He even invited his girl friend to go for midnight show and late supper. After the midnight show and supper which almost near to 1.45 a.m. he will then send her girl friend back to her house. The ghosts issue no longer appears in his mind!

I believe my collegue has to take greater efforts to strenghen his mental state! Just take the example of the radio. If we tune to certain wavelength, certain radio station will be on air. If we constantly focus our mind on negative matter, the negative matter will be attracted by us and it follows us wherever we goes!

Any disagreement? Please share your views.

Cultivating " Happiness Begins With Us " Mindset

2009-09-10T20:36:00.017+08:00

" People Need Motivating Words To Cheer Up! "

If we can cheer up a person by uttering some motivating words to him or her, why should we be so stingy about our words? Anyway, making people happy is just like sprinkling perfume on others, you will also get the perfume smell eventually.

The below video which I received from a long lost friend has a great message to tell us! In fact, I am really impressed with the content of the video. The World would be a better place for us if all of us were to take the initiative to utter some kind and motivating words to whoever we are dealing with! The video was posted by hughnewman1024 on YouTube last year. To appreciate the picture, please click on the below link :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao&feature=email

Different people may have different views, if you are having different views, please share your views.

" I Am Busy " Mindset

2009-09-09T18:45:00.008+08:00

" I am busy ..........., I am busy ..........., I am busy....................".

I have been hearing people saying the above phrase very frequently. I am wondering when it is time for the busy person to leave the world, can he say that he is too busy to leave the world? Can his death be postponed?

When someone did not do their job, they will say they are busy and do not have time to do it. When someone does not want to attend a function, the best excuse is to say " I am busy ".

When my mother was at her last breath, my brother summoned my niece to come home, however, my sister-in-law had a quarrel with him. She scolded my brother for calling my niece back from her busy work assignment at outstation. I was really disappointed to find out that my niece actually went outstation for a holiday with some friends and not for work assignment as mentioned by my sister in law.

When my nephew in law did not come home to attend my eldest brother's funeral, he gave the excuse of "he was busy with work". However, we were disappointed to know that he actually went to a casino with his friends during that day.

When our clients do not want to see us, they will give the excuse of "they are busy"!

I believe we can easily give many many examples of people using " I AM BUSY " to push their duties and responsibilities away.

I believe all busy people must find out why are they so busy? Did they set their priority right? Many of my busy friends eventually told me that they are really exhausted and they did not achieve what they want! They have missed the opportunity to enjoy the happy moments with their family members, and the worst one they told me was that they have forgotten how to live their life! Do you want to join them?

Any views to share?

" Life Never Dies! "

2009-08-30T22:09:00.000+08:00

LIFE = AGE ?

When we talk about life, we talk about age! People like to link "Life" to "Age"! Is there really a linkage between Life and Age? I came across this powerful question, " What is the purpose of Life?" on many many occasions. However, as at todate, I still haven't come across the question of, " What is the purpose of Age?"!

Based on my personal observation, whenever someone attends the wake of any deceased person, the very first thing he or she will do is to look at the age of the deceased person! I really do not understand what is the significant for us to look at the age of the deceased?

Mankind are funny, they always like to interpret a person's death as good or bad according to their own perception. Just take a simple example, if a person dies young, some may be saying, it is a pity to see a person dies young. However, there may be some who will say that we should be happy for the deceased because the Divine Being loves him or her so much that He has to take him back to His Kingdom. Which is the right version? I do not know!

To me personally, we should not worry so much on how long should we stay or live in this world! We should be more concerned about how much good we have done for mankind and the world during the period we are in this world! I believe we will feel much happier if we have done a lot of good deeds before we leave the world. We will have no regrets to leave the world!

I came to know that three of our beloved friends who went to India to do some charity work recently met with a tragic accident and passed away. Leaving the world in the midst of performing a noble task! I believe their good merits will definitely leads them to be reborn in a better place of existence! May I pay my highest respect to them all! May You All Be Well And Happy In Your Next Life!

I would also like to extend my deepest condolences to the members of their families.

Last but not least, I would like to dedicate this beautiful song to all my beloved friends who have passed away in the tragic accident, to listen please click on the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bB-jqsdZvE4&feature=related

What Should We Do Now ?

2009-08-28T20:28:00.000+08:00

" Nowaday, the Generation X and Generation Y are so different from our time. They behave and think so differently!". What an interesting statement which comes from the mouth of the "more wisdom" group of people!

I do not know when they were saying that, did they really think how the Generation X and Y are being "produced"? Who are the one that has "moulded" the Generation X and Y? Can the Generation X and Y "pop up" from nowhere? Are the Generation X and Y the creation of the Divine Being? I believe all of them did not think about it. What they do is just to talk about the "thinking and behavior" of the Generation X and Y!

Let us take a look at the current society. To most of the parents, the most important for them is to earn more money to support the family! I really do not know how one should evaluate how much is enough for a family to survive?! Just imagine how many CEOs' with more than a million dollars income per annum are there in the world? What is the percentage of person with low income are there in the world? Do we mean that those with low income will not be able to sustain their life in the world? Should all the parents just focus on the process of earning more income and ignore the responsibility of educating their children? I came across many rich parents who think that since they do not have much time to spend with their children, the only way they compensate them is to provide more money for their children to do or buy whatever they like. They just couldn't be bother to check the activities of their children. In their mind, as long as they have provided the shelter and money for them, they have already fulfilled their duty as a parent! Sigh!

I believe to provide proper guidance to our younger generations is more important than to just give them the money to spend! Yes, I do not deny that money is important to certain extend, however, if the parents do not take the effort to guide their children, no matter how much money the parents are giving it to them, it won't be enough. I believe the saying, " We should teach our children how to fish rather than to give them the fish!" has a profound meaning in it!

The below meaningful quote which I extract from Auntie Tracye's blog http://troop638.blogspot.com/ provides us an insight on what should we do to guide our younger genertions to make the world a better place to stay.

We sow a THOUGHT we reap an ACT

We sow an ACT we reap a HABIT

We sow a HABIT we reap a CHARACTER

We sow a CHARACTER we reap a DESTINY!

Any views to share?

" Home Sweet Home " ?

2009-08-27T10:59:00.000+08:00

When I was visiting my friend at the hospital last week, I was amazed when I got to know that the first sentence a buddhist monk told his followers after he had regained his consciousness from his heart operation was : " I want to go home! ". Being a buddhist monk, he has already renounced from his home and yet he is telling his followers that he wants to go home!

Nowaday, there are many youngsters who do not like to go home! They prefer to loiter around at the shopping complexes, cybercafes or get together with their friends in a nearby food stall to "chit chat"! I really do not understand what is inside the mind of all this youngsters! What are the reasons that they do not like to go home? Is their house really such a "horrible" place for them to be around? What actually went wrong with them or their home?

A buddhist monk who has renounced from home is requesting permission to go home, the youngsters who have a home and they do not want to go home! Sometime, the parents also do not know what their children are doing outside their home till late night! In fact, there are many crime cases happened during night time! What has actually gone wrong with the society? The parental guidance or the education system or both?

Based on the crime rate which has increased over the years, I believe this is a serious issue the society needs to address! If it is the parental guidance that has gone wrong, parents have to re-look at the ways how they guide their children. If it is the fault of the education system, someone in the higher authority needs to take a careful look at the situation. I believe we should be more pro-active and develop a preventive action plan to address the issue before it happens!

I also strongly believe that "Home" is best place to build the character and the right value system of the younger generation! We should put our hands together to help the younger generation to make the world a better place to stay. Just like the beautiful saying "Charity Begins From Home", should I also add "Character building also Begins from Home"

The " I Am Sincere" Mindset

2009-08-26T13:50:00.001+08:00

"I am sincere to ....................... . It's true, I am really sincere to ............." .

Why should we tell people that we are sincere? Do we mean we are not sincere all the time or our sincerity is at stake? Action speaks louder than words, why can't we show our sincerity through our actions?!

I have come across many incidences where the person who says he or she is sincere is the most "non-sincere" person!

One of my friends ( a General Manager ) likes to use the above phrase when he is talking to his subordinates. However, from my understanding, he is the most "non-sincere" person in the organization. Whatever he says or does, he has a "secret agenda" behind his words or action. One of the incidences that I still can remember well was when his Human Resource Manager was recommended by his superior to become the Group HR Manager, he was so afraid that he told me he will find ways to stop him to be promoted to the recommended position. When I asked him why, he told me that the current HR Manager may "hurt" all his team members if he is up there! From what I know he has been "mistreating or victimising" the HR Manager all these while. I believe he is more worried for himself rather than for his team members. He told the HR Manager that he was sincere and wanted to help him. He "sweet talk" and convince the HR Manager that the higher level he goes, the position will be more and more hectic. When the HR Manager echoed him that he believe what he said, he immediately picked up the telephone and call his superior to tell his superior that the HR Manager had rejected the promotion. The HR Manager ( also one of my friends ) later told me that he was stunned and speechless when the GM called and tell the MD that he had rejected the promotion. In fact, the HR Manager told me that he would like to take up the challenges.

I came across another incident where a businessman told me that he is very sincere with his employees, however, after knowing him for a few weeks, I can say that he is a real hypocrite! He did not honor his words all the times! He promised the employees if they meet certain targets as set by him, he will give them a good bonus, but when they hit the targets, he just "easily" forget what he had promised the employees! He will use the money for his own "pleasure" instead of sharing some profit with his employees. Honestly, I do not know whether does he really understand the word " SINCERE" mean?!

I believe a sincere person uses his action to prove to people that he is sincere. He does not need to tell people that he is sincere all the time! Any disagreement?

Who Is Responsible For What We Do?

2009-08-17T12:15:00.000+08:00

I was shocked when I read from the newspaper that a married man with four young children told the media this: "I leave it to GOD to move my "merely good friend" status with the lady to the next level". Based on what he said, I believe their marriage last week were blessed by their GOD. I was wondering whether will the Divine Being break the relationship of a married couple? Will the Divine Being helps mankind to cover their wrong doing? Also can mankind just sit and do nothing and wait for their Divine Being to decide everything for them?

Well, the more interesting thing to know is that some of this wedding ceremonies are held or solemnised at the religious places. I believe their Divine Being is aware of what msiconduct they have committed. I also believe thing must have started from somewhere sometime before it can be landed up with this results. If someone were to tell you that this couple have not met each other before and suddenly they got married, do you believe it? I believe you have the answer!

I believe the worst thing we can do in this world is to use religion to cover our own wrong doing! We should be responsible for what we have done! We have the courage to commit misconduct, why can't we also have the courage to admit it?! No only in terms of marriage, there are many things in this world that mankind can push it to the Divine Being if they want to, for example : when there is flood, they can blame the Divine Being for the heavy downpour, when there is drought, they can also blame the Divine Being for no rainfall. When the global warming started, they can blame the Divine Being for creating it. When there is H1N1, they can blame the Divine Being for creating the virus etc........ . I believe mankind is "transferring" too many responsibilities to the Divine Being. Poor Divine Being! Hahaha...... .

Lastly, I just hope that before we push our duties and responsibilities to the Divine Being or anyone, we must reflect : "Is this problem created by me?".

Any disagreement? Please share.

" Back To The Basic " Mindset!

2009-08-01T14:28:00.000+08:00

I was very angry with the Contractor who was doing the renovation work for my neighbor this morning. One week ago, I requested him to remove all the wooden moulds which his contract workers threw at the back of my house. He promised me he will do so. One week has passed and there is no sign that he will remove all the wooden moulds.

Since the day he started the renovation work, his contract workers had been throwing rubbish at the back of my house. My house is now " infected " with rats, mosquitoes, coackroaches and ants. Before they start the renovation work, we don't have this type of problem. Since I can't tolerate the situation anymore, I take the initaitive to clean up the area this morning. When I remove the wooden moulds, I was shocked to see that there were a "group of rats" hiding under the wooden moulds. I was stunned and really do not know what to do. " To KILL " or " NOT TO KILL " them?! Apart from the rats, the mosquitoes flew out immediately and the cockroaches and ants were running for their life!

All religions teach us not to kill or murder! Now, I am facing with this type of "challenges or maybe some may called it a test from the Divine Being", what should I do now? Well, I should say that I am very fortunate, when the rats saw me, they were more freighten than me. When I was in deep thought of what should I do next? Suddenly, all the rats ran away! I was so happy that I didn't need to deal with the rats anymore. However, I was sad that I have no other choice for the mosquitoes and insects but to destroy their "house" immediately by spraying the insecticides.

Based on this incident, I realize that why people said it is not easy for us to practise what the religious teachers taught. This incident has also made me realized that I have to be " back to the basic ". What is the point for me to search "deeper and deeper" whereas I can't even " perfect " the " BASIC "! Moreover, all the advance teaching of the religious teachers are from a "Base"!

Any sharing?

The "FEARING" Mindset

2009-07-28T14:07:00.000+08:00

" If you do not follow what the Divine Being says or disobey His Instruction or Order, He will punish you by sending you to a "Torturing Place" later!"

The above statement sounds interesting! I do not know who "created" the statement. What I am interested to know is "how does the person who said that statement knows the Divine Being can get angry and send the person to Hell?". The Divine Being is supposed to be compassionate and treated all human like His own child. However, if the above statement is true, I am wondering how could the Divine Being does such a cruel thing? It is just like a mother who is angry with his child and kill the child just to stop him from further annoying her! It seems to me that they are many self-proclaimed messengers of the Divine Being who are here to convey the message of the Divine Being nowaday. Some of them use the tactic of "FEAR" to threaten people so that they will become their follower. Some of them use "LOVE" to win over the heart of the people! If the people do not succumb to "Threat", they will use "Love"! Anyway, if the Divine Being can get angry, then what is the difference between Him and us, the Human Being? I believe many self proclaimed messengers have already "humanized (?!)" the Divine Being.

Anyway, why should we be a "Divine Being Fearing" human? I believe as long as we practise "Avoid Evil, Do Good and Purify our Mind / Soul ", we should not worry so much about the consequences we have to face later. I believe we should "fear not" by upholding good moral principle and value "! Please share your view.

The "Study One Thing, Do Another Thing" Mindset

2009-07-25T12:59:00.000+08:00

Recently, I wrote to two religious societies seeking their help to find an Accountant for my friend's company. I wrote to them because they are located near to my friend's office. In my mail to them, I stated clearly that I am not a recruitment agent or a headhunter. I do not collect any fees from my friend. My intention is just to help anyone who is out of job and is desperately looking for a job for survival.

I was shocked to receive the below replies from them :

1. You are not a member of the society. As such we will not broadcast your mail to our members.

2. As a policy, our society do not post any non related and non-activity driven emails in our noticeboard.

I respect their organizations' policies. In fact, they should have the right policies to ensure the smooth running of their organizations.

One thing I do not understand and or still confuse is that all the religions in the world teach us to be good, be compassionate and help those who are in need of help. I wonder should the above societies need to review their policies? Are their policies in line with their religious teaching? Are the policies of the societies just to promote members' get together gathering, hold religious seminar, listening to religious sermons, organize fund raising campaign for the societies, conduct hymn singing sessions, organize religious retreat and organize "once a year" festive trip to orphanage and old folks' home? I do not know. I am just wondering what can we realize if we were to just study hard about the Holy Scripture and we do not practise what is taught in the Holy Scripture?

I believe in this economic downturn, there will be many people who are out of job. I believe one of the areas where the religious societies can help the society is to help those people who are out of employment to get back a job. As we are aware, some of the people who were being retrenched were the sole breadwinner of the family. I do hope that the religious societies should also include community service as one of their main objectives!

Policy is " Man Made"! If the policy is no more applicable or deviated from the main Teaching, I believe that society should review the policy accordingly! Anyone disagree? Please share.

A " Strong And Courageous " Mindset

2009-07-23T21:34:00.000+08:00

Soh : I will let the past go!

Soh Cher Wei, the lady holding the joss-stick in the picture is a STRONG and COURAGEOUS lady. My highest respect to her.

To find out more of her story , please click on the link : Soh : I will let the past go !

Soh Cher Wer is the fiancee of Mr Teoh Beng Hock, the ex-political secretary to Selangor exco member Ean Yong Hian Wah, who died on July 16 after falling from one of the floors of Plaza Masalam in Shah Alam, Selangor, Malaysia.

The below two statements by Soh :

1. She has made her peace over her fiance Teoh Beng Hock’s death and will now remember their happy times together instead."

2. " I told myself that I did not need to cry. I will let the past go ".
has really earned my highest respect.

Just imagine how many of us can really focus on " Remember the happy times together" and " Let Go " what we have especially the beloved ones? It is not easy for us to do so. As for Soh, I believe Soh has realized and accepted the fact that she will never see Teoh again in this life. No one knows what lies ahead for her, she needs to be strong to face the future challenges.

"Let Go" is an easy phrase to say! Many of us can even use the phrase to advise people who are facing adversity. However, I do not know how many of us can really let go when we are facing the same type of situation. We must cultivate our mind so that we can realize that all things in this world are subjected to Impermanence!

Lastly, may I take this opportunity to wish Soh,

" MAY SOH BE WELL AND HAPPY ALWAYS! "

and as for Teoh,

" MAY TEOH BE WELL AND HAPPY IN HIS NEXT LIFE! "

Favorite Blog Award 2009

2009-07-23T15:19:00.000+08:00

This Favorite Blog Award was awarded to me by one of my blogger friends Alma at "Live, Love, Laugh with philly5113". She graceously shared it with a few of us.This is a pass it on and it feels so good! Alma got the award from one of her frequent visitor and blogger friend. She received the award and passed it on to her. Check her out at Theraphy Home Blog, http://lilyarbee.blogspot.com/. This was awarded to Lilyabee by DedeAndro and AgentPX, both their URL indicated below and please try to visit them to get to know them too : http://dedeandro.blogspot.com/ and :http://agentpx.blogspot.com.

Remember I said that this is a pass it on, I will do so now! Read on.

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- Get more traffic to your blog. - Makes more new friends.

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- Start copy from “Begin Copy” until “End Copy” to your blog. - Put your own blog name and link. - Tag your friends as much as you can.

My blog is "Breaking Mindset" and my link url is: http://breakingmindset.blogspot.com/

I would like to pass on this Award to my following favorite bloggers:

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Congratulations to all of you.

Should We Cultivate "Good Begets Good" Mindset?

2009-07-16T11:18:00.000+08:00

Recently, I saw a lady who went to seek blessings from a religious teacher. She cried and told the religious teacher that someone has cast a spell on her recently. According to her, she has lost her appetite to eat and also can't sleep well now. Her health is deteriorating and she feel dizzy the whole day. She requested the religious teacher to do some blessings for her. The religious teacher complied to her request. One week later, the lady came back to tell the religious teacher that the bad spell has come back again.

I do not underestimate the power of " blessings or black magic ". However, can "blessings and or black magic" solve our problem permanently? Well, I do believe that blessings does boost up our spirit. As for "black magic or charm ", it may tame down our senses at time, however, the consequences we have to suffer is immense! Just to share a real story of my friend : Many years back, I had a friend who likes to play around with "black magic". One day, one of his subordinates quarrelled with him, he told me that he was so upset and he enagaged a medium to cast a spell on this subordinate. His subordinate did not know about it. A few weeks later, his subordinate met with an accident and lost one of his limbs ( I do not know whether was it a co-incidence?! ). Since then, my friend has become so "guilty conscious" that he always like to distant himself from all his subordinates and colleagues. He just don't like to hear about the story of this subordinate. I believe he is living in the shadow of FEAR! He scared that his other colleagues and subordinates may find out he had cast a spell on this subordinate. I believe there is no word in this world that can express the mental anguish he has to go through after the incident!

As for me personally, I am more concerned to know why people would want to a cast a spell on us? Also, the most important question is, " Why You and Not Others "? I strongly believe that for any "effects" that we get, there must be some causes or reasons behind. What are the reasons or causes which make people to be so unhappy or jealous over us? Did we intentionally hurt anyone physically or mentality? What are the things that we didn't do it right? I believe most of the people will be more focussing on why people want to take such a horrible action towards us instead of what we have done wrong? Man always blinded by our own "selfishness". What we have done towards others we just want people to forget about it, but whatever people has done towards us, it is just so difficult for us to forget about it!

As the saying goes, if we do good towards others, others will reciprocate accordingly. I believe strongly with this saying! Anyone has different view? Please share your view.

Should We Worry About " FATE " ?

2009-07-09T23:04:00.000+08:00

Recently, a friend of mine told me the story of a lady who committed suicide a few months ago. He told me that the lady committed suicide because she was living in the state of "FEAR"! According to my friend, this lady went to consult a fortune teller about her life before she committed suicide. The fortune teller told her that she has to be extremely careful when she reaches the age of 28. According to the fortune teller, the lady will be encountering a traumatic situation which will endanger her life at that age. This lady was so worried that she couldn't sleep and eat well. She was at the age of 25 then. She suspected that she will have a short life after the consultation and she told everybody that she will not live past the age of 28. Eventually, she went into "Depression". A few months before she committed suicide, she started to see images at every corner of her house. Sometime she will talk to her ownself for a few hours and told her family members that she was talking to some spirits. She even told some of her family members that one of the spirit wanted her to be with him soon. Since she is mentally unstable, everyone just ignore what she said. The next thing her family knew was that she has committed suicide at the age of 27!

I believe that there are many incidences like this happening around the world everywhere, everyday and every minute! Those who do not have the ability to control their own destiny and or fate, other people will take over their control. What a pity?!

It is a fact that we should keep ourself happy all the times. Most of the time, things that make us unhappy are things that were already passed and/or things that are going to happen. I believe the above stated lady was trapped in this type of situation. She had neglected the fact that we are here in this world for a good and valuable moment and not for a long time, we do not live forever. We should put our concentration on what we can do and not focussing on the non value added thought on how long can one live!

Anyway, does it really matter how long we can live? Why should we spend our valuable time to focus on things that no one can really give us an exact answer? Why can't we put our concentration on what we can do rather than to cry over the past or worry about the future? As the saying goes, if you want to know what you had done in the past, you are experiencing the "results or fruit" now! If you want to know about your future, the present moment is the "processing time"! We have to be realistic and live in the present moment! I believe if the above stated lady can let go about what the fortune teller told her and do not worry so much about her future, she will not go into Depression!

If our mind is clear, no one or no unwholesome thoughts can take over your life! As we can see from some of the cancer patients, if they have a strong mind to "fight" the war, the chances are there for them. If their mind were to tell them to give up and they really give up, I do not believe there is a slightest chance for them to survive!

A Tribute To Michael Jackson - The King Of Pop

2009-07-07T15:03:00.000+08:00

The passing away of Michael Jackson, the King Of Pop is a great loss to the music industry and the entertainment world. His professional showmanship, his passion towards music, his drive, his energy and the songs he composed had really shaken the world. Michael Jackson was also a great samaritan. He had donated much of his fortune to help the poor and the children.

Although there are many controversies around him, I believe Michael has done his job well in this world. His untiring efforts to bring joy to the people in the world has really gained my highest respect! I believe his below four great songs have really touched the hearts of many of us. They are : We Are The World, You Are Not Alone, Heal The World and Earth Song. The songs are so meaningful, beautiful and inspiring. Through these few meaningful, beautiful and inspiring songs, Michael delivered an important message to all mankind in the world, that is we need to be back to the basic human nature, that is to show respect, love and be generous towards all mankind in this world!

Although Michael Jackson has left us physically, his high spirit can never be erased from our mind! Let us put our hearts together to bid farewell to this Great Man!

"MAY MICHAEL JACKSON BE WELL AND HAPPY IN HIS NEXT LIFE!"

Can A Clear Mind Help?

2009-07-06T13:28:00.000+08:00

" Chicken comes first or an egg comes first? "

Recently, I came to know about an interesting organization where this question will definitely be posted to a candidate when he or she comes for an interview. According to the founder of the Group, this question is important to him. He always use this question to assess whether the potential candidate has the same alignment with him in terms of belief, value and philosophy. If the candidate is having different view from him, he will not employ the candidate eventhough he has good academic results. This is really an interesting way of checking a person's belief, value and philosophy of a person.

Nowadays, we can see many young couples break off after they have married for just a few years. I believe at the time when they were courting, everything was so............... beautiful! They were living in an idealistic dream! I have a friend who was having this similar problem. When they were courting, he will eat whatever his girl friend eats eventhough he didn't like the food. When his girl friend tells him she doesn't like to have baby, he agreed with her. After having married for two years, they told me that they just couldn't stay together anymore. He told me he can't eat what she eats everyday. He has totally different taste bud from her. He told me his parent is requesting him to have at least one baby. If he wants to have a baby, he has broken his promise to his wife. If he doesn't want to have a baby, he will disappoint his parents as he is the only son in his family. He is in a dilemma now, he really doesn't know what to do!

If we were to have a clear mind like the enterpreneur as stated above, I believe we will have a own set of "selection criteria" to be focus on. If we have identified the so called "selection criteria", the chances of we going wrong can be minimised. Well, be it in business, working environment, or choosing a life partner, we must have a cool and clear mind.

Should We Accept "Impermanent"?

2009-06-26T17:14:00.000+08:00

" You by my side, that's how I see us, I close my eyes, and I can see us, we on our way to say " I Do "........". What a beautiful wedding song!

When my aunty married ten years ago the above beautiful song was played at the banquet hall where the wedding dinner was served. Recently, I came to know that my aunty was having a serious marital problem with her husband. According to my sister-in-law, my aunty discovered that her husband is having an affair with a young lady from foreign country. What I heard is that the lady was young, gorgeous, have very good social skill and also good skill at taking care of "man". I ama really surprised that this unhappy incident happened to my aunty. I still remembered the day when my uncle proposed to marry my aunty, everyone in the family were so happy. Everyone in the family thought that this is a perfect match! Out of a sudden, I heard that my uncle's heart has changed, he told my aunty that he, as a well known businessman in the society, he cannot live with a lady who is old looking, non fashionable, not sociable....... . What an insult to my aunty?! It seems he won't grow old!

If my uncle is attached to the "image" of "young, pretty and gorgeous" look, definitely, my aunty won't be abe to meet it! Everything in this world is subjected to change! All of us will grow old, the appearance of our physical body will change accordingly. Our muscles will start to sag, our internal organ will start to show sign of degeneration...... . How can one goes against the natural laws?

In my opinion,we have to accept the fact that nothing in this world is permanent! We must make sure that we do not let our mind sways us away from believing that "All conditioned things are Impermanent!". Whatever thing arises in this world are with conditions, e.g. a table, the conditions are : we must buy the wood, we must cut it according to the specification, we must polish the wood............ . Same like conceiving a baby, the conditions are : father and mother must come together, it's the fertile period of the mother ........... . If we do not meet all these conditions, do you think the end results can be met? Same goes to my aunty's situation, if my uncle can accept the the fact that our physical body is subjected to the natural process of change, I do believe they will not come to this type of situation!

" Suffering Is A Condition Created By Our Mind?! "

2009-06-24T15:13:00.000+08:00

"We are living in a world of suffering!"

Are we really living in a world of suffering? I believe it depends very much on our own perception and or reasoning!

Let us look at the following examples : A rich man may find that not living in a luxurious house and not driving a luxurious vehicle is suffering, however, for a poor man, they are happy with just a shelter with basic amenities and driving a small car. A big businessman may find that the life of a hawker is suffering, however, the street hawker is happy over their living, they don't have too much "issues and challenges" to face! An alcoholic may find happiness after he has drunk, however for a normal person, he may think that why should his life be controlled by alcohol and to him this is suffering! A superstitious person may find happiness in seeking all sorts of blessings from the supernatural beings and to a realistic and practical person, this is suffering! etc........... .

Suffering is a condition created by our mind. Below are two real life incidences where it proves that suffering is a condition created by our mind:

Incident One

One of my brother friends was diagnosed with prostate cancer recently. The doctor told him and his family that he only has about six months to live! After hearing what the doctor said, he immediately "quarantine" himself in the room. He just wanted to be alone and let the illness to "conquer" him. What he does now is just to come out from the room, take his meal and go back to his room and rest. He does nothing but just rest in bed all the time. He is really in a serious suffering state!

Incident Two

One of my colleagues was also diagnosed with cancer. When the doctor told him he has prostate cancer. He did not feel sad. He smile and told the doctor not worry or feel sad about it. He also told the doctor that he will not let the illness to conquer him. He did not resign from his employment or stop work immediately. He continue to work like nothing had happened to him. He is cheerful, confident and highly motivated everyday. Although everyone in the company were so worried for him, he told us not to worry. He requested us not to treat him like an "alien". His cheerfulness, confident and high self motivation character has won the race. Although the doctor told him he still have six month to live, as at todate ( i.e after two years ) he is still around with us! In fact, the doctor was surprised and told him that his illness has completely recovered. Although this colleague of mine is suffering from a terminal illness, he is not living in a suffering state!

Based on the above two incidences, do you agree with me that " Suffering Is A Condition Created By Our Mind!". Please share your views.

The " How To " Mindset

2009-06-20T09:44:00.000+08:00

"It Begins With The End In Mind!"

Personally, I agree with the above statement. However, with an "End In Mind" is not good enough, we must also identify a right process to achieve it. With an "End In Mind" without a right "Process" to support it, it is just like a "Dream"! I have seen many people failed to achieve what they have planned for just because they do not have a right process.

Just take an example of someone who intends to bake a banana cake. With his "vision" of seeing the cake within the next few hours, he goes to the mini-mart to purchase the ingredients. However, if he doesn't know the process of how to : a) mix the ingredients in the right sequence and with the right composition, b) bake the dough with the right temperature and right timing, do you think he can get a good banana cake at the end of the day? I wonder! Another example is the businessman, if he has a big vision to bring his organization from a local level to a world class level, and if he does not identify the right process to do it, do you think he can achieve his dream at the end of the day? As for the student? If he or she has an ambition to be an doctor one day and he does not have the right "study" process, can he achieve his dream?

Many people like to create a "Vision"! Most of them just neglect the importance of identifying the right process to achieve it! I have come across many organizations hanging their "Vision" and "Mission" Statements in their front offices and many areas within their premises, however when I asked their staffs on how they are going to achieve it, they just told me they do not know. Some of them even told me that it is their boss instruction to hang the "Vision" and "Mission" there!

My sharing is that if we have created a vision or set up a goal, do not neglect to identify the right process to achieve it. If we fail to identify the right process, our vision or goal will remain as an "Intention" or just a "Dream"!

As the saying goes, " If you are on the right process, your results will come automatically "!

Any sharings?

All In The State Of Mind!

2009-06-17T10:24:00.000+08:00

" Ah Pek ( an address to an elderly Chinese man ), if you take this medicine, you can walk immediately! This medicine is like "battery" water, it will give you the strength and energy to walk. Trust me Ah Pek. I don't cheat you Ah Pek! ". This is the so called "assurance" the hospital assistant gave to an elderly person who had just undergone a surgery.

I was not surprised to see the Ah Pek stand up and walked after he had taken the medicine. I believe many of us may have encountered a similar situation like this. Whenever our "self -confidence" level has dropped, we need some external "assurance or catalyst" to boost back our confidence!

Mind can make wonders! If you believe you can or have full confidence in doing whatever you are doing or intend to do, you will succeed in doing it. However, if you do not have the confidence, you definitely won't be able to achieve the end results!

Faith Healing is a very good example. If the patient himself does not have the confidence in the treatment, I believe the Faith Healer will fail in his effort to treat the person! I believe all these are in the state of our mind!

Let us do an exercise to see how our mind can deceive us, can you count the no. of black dots on the picture as shown on the left? Having difficulty to count? Well, this is eactly how our mind can deceive us! I believe if we don't have a cool and calm mind, we won't be able to make a sound judgement in whatever we do!

If we don't manage our mind, our mind will manage us! If our mind is managing us, how can we see thing in its true sense?

Should We Do Our Part?!

2009-06-15T10:53:00.000+08:00

"If you were to go for a long holiday and forget to lock your house, what guarantee can you get from the Divine Being that your house will be safe when you return? This is the question my friend posted to me when I was having tea with him yesterday.

I believe there are two important parts to this question! One part is on the faith on the Divine Being, the other part is on the duty and responsibiity of the person himself! I am not in a position to talk on the faith on the Divine Being, however, I would like to share my views on the duty and responsibility of the person as follows: Why should we make the Divine Being as our security guard? Why should we push our duty and responsibility to the Divine Being? What have we done to ensure our own safety and security? If we were to push everything to the Divine Being, what is the difference between us and the robot? Moreover, by doing this we are going to make the Divine Being to be very very busy! Let us be fair to the Divine Being, we must also do our part! Well, in this context, I salute the free thinkers who do not have a Divine Being to rely on! They really practise Self -Reliance!

I believe as long as human beings do not eradicate this unfavorable habit of pushing duty and responsiblity to others, the world will continue to be in a mess! Let us put our hearts together so that we can work towards eradicating this unfavorable habit and make the world a better place to stay!

What A "Ghostly" Mindset!

2009-06-06T14:25:00.000+08:00

I have a friend who told me he will never visit any friend who is in the hospital. I asked him why? He told me that whenever he goes to any hospital, he will fall sick the next day! He also told me that there are many "ghosts" in the hospital disturbing the visitors. Well, as for his explanation on he will fall sick the next day, my reasoning is that it could be due to his body's immunal system is weak. As for his explanation on there are many ghosts in the hospital to disturb visitors, I do not see any reason why the ghosts want to "disturb or victimise" him?

I believe the following has been implanted in his mind ... "ghosts are terrible and horrible, their face are full of blood and very very scary, they will harm people, they will possess your body etc etc ......." Some parents use this to frighten their young children so that they won't simply go anywhere. These parents are really innocent. They do not know by doing this, they have already implanted a wrong concept in the mind of their young children. Their children will be scared of ghosts, have no confidence to walk in the dark, scared of attending funeral etc etc... for the rest of their life! I have seen some of these children even go to the extend of becoming very superstitious later! I believe this friend of mine is also suffering from the same consequences.

If I were to post a question : Which is more harmful, Mankind or Ghosts? What would be your answer? If you were to say is ghost, the next interesting questions I am going to ask are : Have you ever seen a ghost take away many many many human life in one event like a War? Have you ever come across a serial rapist ghost? Have you come across a ghost torturing mankind like putting a hot iron on the body of another human? Have you come across a ghost "tempting" mankind to "hook" on to drugs? I haven't seen or come across any of the above incidences before. If you have come across, I do hope you can share your view.

The strong inclination of human beings towards sensual and sexual pleasure have blown off their mind! They can't really differentiate what is wrong and what is right! They will just do whatever that can satisfy their sensual and sexual pleasure. They couldn''t be bothered about whether the method they use to get what they want is wrong or right! They can be very cruel at time just to get what they want! Well, as for the ghosts, they are already in the in the "suffering" state, if they are in the suffering state, how can they have the "free" time to disturb mankind? On the contrary, if the ghosts are not in the suffering state, they will be at a "happy" state! If they are in the happy state, why should they create trouble for themselves by disturbing mankind??? I really do not understand!

Anyway, I believe human beings already have enough "human problem" to cope with. Can we find a way to treat all ghosts like Casper - the friendly ghost so that all beings, be it human beings or other beings can live in peace in this beautiful world! If I am not wrong, I remember some religious school taught that we must love our enemies so that our love will "melt" the heart of our enemies! Please share your view.

Can "Greed" Kill Mankind?

2009-06-04T11:38:00.000+08:00

I received the information on "New Cheating Scam" in my mail box almost everyday. The DJs' in the radio station are broadcasting it everyday. The media are publishing the warning or alert messages in their newsapaper or magazines everyday. However, people are still succumbed to all these cheating scam! Will there be an end to all this unwholsome act by the unscrupulous group? Can people control their greed so that they are not succumbed to all these cheating scam?

Greed, I believe is a "critical illness" which is more harmful than Cancer! However, people just ignore it. I believe all of us are aware that researchers are trying their utmost best to develop new medicines to control or cure the cancer patients. However, I still have not come across any researchers who are finding ways to cure the "Greed" of the people! As all of us are aware, most of the problems in this beautiful world are caused by the "greed" of mankind! Most of the sickness especially mental sicknesses are also caused by "greed" of mankind! What had been done to remedy or safeguard this situation? I do not know.

Most of the medical professionals will tell us that stress can create many sickness for mankind. What is the root cause of "Stress"? One way or another, it is either directly or indirectly linked to human greed!

Just take the example of the cheating scam, if the "victims" were not greedy or thinking of getting fast and easy money, do you think they will fall in to the trap? After they had fallen into the trap, their money are gone and when this happens, their livelihood were affected etc .. . I can imagine the trauma they have to go through. Why can't they have a sound mind when temptation arises?

Watch out for our "Greed"! When it arises in your mind, make sure you are aware it is coming your way and it is going to hurt you . Do not try to "brush" it aside, watch the rising of the thought in your mind! Tell yourself that greed is in your mind, do not respond to it, allow it to stay idle in your mind for few minutes, and gradually as your mind is not responding, "Greed " will subside from your mind accordingly.

Any views on the above? Please share.

"Living With Problem" Mindset!

2009-05-30T13:02:00.000+08:00

"He didn't even leave me a parting word!"

This was what my aunty told me when we attended her husband funeral. Based on what I know, my aunty was having "cold war" with her husband for the past few years. They did not speak to each other for many years. According to her, she suspected her husband was having an affair with another woman. However, she didn't have the evidence to prove his misbehavior. She just continue to keep on to have "cold war" with her husband. She just hope her husband will take the initiative to talk to her.

Human beings are funny. When they have the opportunity to communicate or clarify doubts with each other, they just refused to do so because of "ego". When the opportunity has passed, they then regretted for not doing so.

I have come across many couples when they have problem, they initiated the "cold war". They just don't want to solve their problem with their spouse face to face. They would talk about their problem with their brothers, sisters ( but not their parents as they are afraid that their parents would scold them! )and good friends. Their behavior are like some "politicians" who are seeking for sympathy votes. They just feel happy when someone is listening to them or on their side.

Well, I do believe problems are everywhere! If we don't have problem, then, we are not living in the human world! We can't avoid or find ways to escape from our problem. We need to solve our problem. Well, solving problem need a cool and calm mind. If our mind is not cool and calm, and or we are emotionally disturbed, we can't see the problem in its true sense. If we can't see our problem in its true sense, how are we going to make a sound decision to solve our problem?

Just take an example of my aunty, if my aunty can cool down and calm down her mind, I believe she can resolve her problem with her husband. She doesn't need to cry and regret after he has gone!

I strongly believe in the saying : "Better Solve it Than Never"! We can't be living or married with our problem for life! Problem has a multiplying effect, the longer you live with it, the more problems it will create for you! Just take an example : If we are having family problem, we won't be able to concentrate on our work, if we can't concentrate on our work, our work performance will be affected. If our work performance is affected, our employment will be at stake. If our employment is at stake, our income will be seriously affected ............... .

In short, we should not not live with our problem. We have to manage and solve our problem. If we don't solve our problem, our problem will strangle us till death!

Be "MIND-FULL" Mindset

2009-05-28T10:01:00.000+08:00

" Didn't you know you are driving? Why can't you park your car at a safe place before you pick up your call? ". These are the exact words use by my friend to scold his son when he met with an accident recently.

Many of us do not know what we are doing most of the time. Most of the time, our thoughts, our feeling, our emotion and or our perception are managing us! A simple real life example are : How many of us are aware that we are in the "angry" mode when someone aggitated us? How many of us are aware that our legs are moving forward when we are walking? How many of us are aware that our hand is putting the food into our mouth during meal time? etc...... . Well, I don't mean to say that we are not aware of what we are doing all the time, what I am trying to say is "MOST OF THE TIME"!

When a businessman is in the market, how many of them are aware that they are engaging the techniques use in the "killing field" to fight for survival and the market share? I believe in the mind of all these businessman, "kill the competitors" is their main objective! How many politicians are aware that they must still in the business of helping the people to live a better and more meaningful life after they have won in the election?

Our mind is just like a monkey, it jumps from one thought to another within a split of a second! Just take the example of my friend's son, he may want to focus on driving safely on the road, however, when his handphone rang, he got excited and or panic that it might be an urgent call from his superior or an important customer, immediately the word safety disappeared from his mind and he picked up the call! Same goes to some "corrupted" politicians, their initial intentions when standing for Election was to help the people, however, when there are too many "attractive offers" seducing(?!) them and if they are not mindful, they will be deviated from their initial intentions and be dragged into a "suffering" state.

Be mindful of what we are doing or we intend to do! If we are mindful, our mind will be very focus! If our mind is focus, it would be like a sharp laser beam , we can then achieve our goals without much problems! Just take a simple example, if a heavy smoker intends to quit smoking, I believe he can't just quit it immediately. I have seen many heavy smokers failed in their attempt to quit his smoking habits with this type of "Quit On The Spot" method! I believe the best method for the heavy smokers who intend to quit the habit is to learn the process of how to watch their thoughts! If they are aware of the thought of "Go For It" is coming their way, I believe they will have more than a way to stop it from happening! It is just like if we are aware that a thief is loitering around our house, don't you agree with me that you will definitely lock your doors and windows proper to ensure that the thief can't enter your house!

I believe if all of us were to watch our thoughts and mindful in whatever we are doing, the world would be a better place for us to stay!

A " Blaming " Mindset

2009-05-19T14:15:00.000+08:00

When I was trimming my bouganvilla tree (it was just a small pot of plant and now it has become a small tree now!) yesterday evening, my neighbour came over to chit chat with me. She told me that it is not good to plant any plants with sharp thorns in the house compound. According to her, the sharp thorns of the plants will "hurt" the health of the people in the house and luck will not enter our house! I was stunned and at the same time amazed with what she said.

This is one of the typical problems of mankind! Whenever they are facing any problem, the very first thing they do is to find a scapegoat, i.e who to blame for?! We, human being is the one who has created umpteem problem for ourselves, however, we never realise that we are the culprit. Instead we put the blame on the Sun, the Moon, the Stars, the Divine Being, the Animals, the Plants, the Mountain, the Sky, the Sea, the Wind, the Rain etc............ for whatever problem we have created! Just look at these few examples : For Swine Flu, they blame the Pig, for Mad Cow Disease, they blame the Cow, for Bird Flu, they blame the Chicken, for Dengue Fever, they blame the Mosquito, for Rabies, they blame the Dog, for Plague, they blame the Rats, etc.......... . However, human being will never blame themselves for not keeping their environment and surrounding clean.

Well, for this good neighbor of mine, she is a big "investor ( according to her, she is investing(?!) in the lucky number she bet!)" in the gaming industry. She can spend a large amount of money just to bet on one lucky number! However, she is very stingy in terms of donation to the charitable organizations. She is a superstitious woman. Whenever she did not strike any lottery, she will start to look at the arrangement of her plants in her garden and the arrangement of the furnitures inside her house. She and her husband even go to the extend of asking her dogs to pick lucky numbers for them. She and her husband also travelled extensively around the Region to seek blessings from whoever that can give her the "lucky" number! She can spend thousand of dollars to buy a small piece of stone just because someone told her the stone can bring her good luck. She is a strong believer in LUCK! What a pity to this innocent lady!

I am not underestimating the power of cosmic energy and meta physics. I do believe in them to certain extend. However, I have a much stronger believe in the Laws Of Action (Cause) and Reaction (Effect). Personally, I had spoken to some Feng Shui Masters before, according to them, they can help you to arrange your house, your office table and chair, your safe deposit box etc to face a good feng shui direction, however, if you do not have accumulated good merits you will not be able to receive all its benefits. I do not know how far it is true!

My personal opinion is that we should focus more on accumulating good merits rather than to seek blessings from someone and or objects like a tree, a piece of stone .... . I believe all of us is aware of this saying, what goes around comes around. When you do good, good thing will follow you wherever you go!

Do you agree with me?

The " I Know I Know " Mindset

2009-05-18T16:07:00.000+08:00

" I know I know ".

Have you ever come accross anyone where before you could finish your sentence, he or she will tell you "I know I know"? Well, what will be your normal reaction towards this type of people? Will you continue with what you are going to say or will you just stop saying what you want to say?

Recently, I came across two incidences where the " I know I know" type of person have creating problem for themselves.

Incident 1

A friend of mine invited his client for lunch at a well known restaurant recently. However, before my friend could finish his sentence, his client told him "I know, I know " I know the restaurant very well and I will be there on time. Assuming his client knew where the restaurant is, my friend did not further elaborate on the location of the restaurant. My friend went there on time to wait for him. However, after an hour of waiting for him, he still did not not turn up for the appointment. My friend sensed that something had gone wrong and he gave him a call to check where about was he? When his client picked up his call, he was a bit annoyed and told my friend that he was waiting for him at the restaurant. My friend told him he was at the restaurant too and he couldn't see him. Eventually, they found out that they were at the same restaurant but different location! Both of them have a good laugh and have to re-arrange their appointment to another day.

Incident 2

A Production Manager told his Supervisor that Sales Department has requested for a specified product to be delivered to the customers in three weeks time. The Supervisor told the Production Manager, "I know, I know " I know what is the product the Sales Department required and will get ready on time. Thinking that the Supervisor knew what he was supposed to produce, the Production Manager left the production floor and went back to his room. On the second week, the Production Manager went to check with the Supervisor to see whether the product could be produced on time. His anger arose when he saw what they were making is different from the requisition. What was requested by the Sales Dept. was the same product but of different color. The Supervisor argued with the Production Manager that normally during these period of time, the customers will be requesting the color he was making. The Supervisor was not aware that the color trend has changed this year. A costly mistake made by both the Production Manager and the Supervisor!

The moral of the above two true stories are : We must be humble at all time and do not assume what other people want from us is what we are thinking of! ASSUMPTION kills us at time! And, it is always good to paraphrase to ensure clear communication.

A " Selfish " Mindset

2009-05-17T14:38:00.000+08:00

This morning I saw a car parking in the middle of the road. When I take a look at the windscreen of the car ( I thought the driver has been given a special pass by the Traffic Police or the Road Transport Department to park the car in the middle of the road ), I didn't see any special permit on the windscreen. What I can see is just the car's road tax certificate and some religious stickers on the windscreen. From what I understand, although we had already paid the road tax, we are still not allowed to violate the traffic rules or park our car in the middle of the road. I do not know how the driver passed his driving test. Another question in my mind is : If the government did not give the driver the permission, with the religious stickers paste on the windscreen, does it mean the Divine Being allow the driver to violate the traffic rules or park his car in the middle of the road?!

I came across many road accidents where I saw religious stickers or statues of the drivers' religious teachers on the windscreen of their cars. I believe these drivers may think that the Divine Being is with them all the times and why worry? I believe this is not a good thought! What assurance can we get from the Divine Being that he will take care of our safety if we don't obey the traffic rules?

I believe many of us will have heard of this saying before, " GOD helps those who help themselves ". If you do not help yourself, do you expect GOD to help you? For the Atheists, I believe their belief is that they are the one who should responsible for what they have done! No matter what we believe or what we say, we need to play our part to protect our own safety rather than to leave the responsibility to the Divine Being! Just take an example, what guarantee can we get from the Divine Being that he will take care of our house if go for a long holiday and have forgotten to lock our house before we leave for the holiday?

If we are planning to go to a place where it is difficult to find a car park, we should start our journey earlier. We should not take the risks of endangering our life or others' life by parking our car in the middle of the road. To all the drivers, please be considerate, understanding and be safety conscious. No one can stop you from taking your own life away, however, please be kind enough as not to endanger the valuable life of others!

Leaders Must Have "Stay Focus" Mindset!

2009-05-15T10:41:00.000+08:00

" I am for the people! "

This statement is a heart touching statement! It would be good if the statement is really sincerely comes from the heart of the elected leaders. However, it is so unfortunate to see that the there are also many leaders whom are fighting for themselves or their party instead of the people who elected them.

They have forgotten that they are elected by the people. However, they are not for the people. Before they are elected, they are propagating the virtue of " By the people, for the people". Once they are elected, they are for themselves and or for their party and no more for the people!

They are aware what are the challenges the people are facing? However, they are so power craze that everyday they are fighting for power! They do not care what their people are facing, it is like non of their business! People under their constituent are facing umpteen problem everyday, they do not have time to help the people to solve their problem. They only have time to fight for themselves and their party.

They are busy, busy and busy everyday. However, their " busy-ness " are not for their people.

I appeal to all the leaders to reflect on what they are doing. Just reflect on the below :

1. Am I doing what the people is expecting me to do?

2. Have I deviated from the main objectives?

3. Am I giving excuses for myself to deviate from my main objectives?

Do not let the " confused or uncleared" mindset to destroy our way of thinking or made ourselves lost our direction.

When Should We Develop "Teambuilding" Mindset?

2009-05-14T22:51:00.000+08:00

Teambuilding program seems to be a training program which can not be neglected nowaday. It could be due to the economics downtown that many organizations are engaging in the process of downsizing. With the downsizing exercise, the headcount in the organiztion will thus be reduced accordingly. Now, with less employees, the remaining "survivors" in the organization have to do more work and they must seriously work as a "TEAM" in order to accomplish their tasks on time.

Can team become effective just by undergoing a few days of training? Can human mind really work together for long? What are things that can make people work together for long? Maybe the teambuilding experts have the answer.

I have seen many organizations keep highlighting to the employees that they must work together to achieve their organization objectives. Some organizations even hang posters with the motto of " ONE TEAM, ONE VISION, ONE FUTURE " everywhere within their organization's premises. However, the efforts is only for the purpose of launching the management progam. After the launching, the motto will be completely forgotten. I am not saying that teambuilding program is totally ineffective. However, they are many factors to consider before one could develop a more effective teambuilding program.

As the saying goes, " Charity begins at home", I have the same belief that the development of teambuilding mindset should always begins at home. Parents should promote "teambuilding" among all their children when they are young. Parents should emphasize to the children that if they work together, they can achieve more. Parents should not promote or encourage "individualism" within the family. If we were to inculcate the concept of teambuilding in the young children minds, I believe the results would be more effective when these young ones becomes adults and join the society.

Agree? Disagree? Please share your views? Thank you in advance.

Life Is Valuable! Don't Waste It!

2009-05-12T14:14:00.000+08:00

Tan Geek Koon is fitted with a “mechanical heart” and she has to lug around a 9kg portable battery if she wants to move about. However, this won’t weigh down on the 41-year-old former air stewardess who left the hospital on Friday to be with her children this Mother’s Day. Full stories, refer The Star.

I really do not understand why she has to suffer this type of condition? Fariness on earth??? Where??? Anyway, the most important thing now is to wish Mdm Tan will receive a healthy heart soon. May the highest blessings to be with you always, Mdm Tan Geek Koon.

Honestly, I am extremely sad whenever I come across any suicidal case or people with healthy heart committing crime!!! Life is uncertain, death is certain. Why should they waste their life? Mdm Tan hope to lead a normal life and take care of her children, however, she is deprived of the ability. I just hope whoever wants to commit suicide or commit any serious crime, please read the story of Mdm Tan. I just hope Mdm Tan's story will make them realize that their life is valuable and do not waste it! If after they have read the story of Mdm Tan and still insist to commit the crime, please sign a pledge to pledge their organs accordingly to those who is in need of them. With that pledge, at least he or she is doing a meritorious deed at his or her last moment as human beings!

Lastly, may all the god and goddesses grant Mdm Tan their highest blessings so that she is able to receive a healthy heart soon! For those who believe in sharing merits, please share your good merits with Mdm Tan, may Mdm Tan receive a healthy heart soon.

The "100 Days Of Action" Mindset

2009-05-11T16:59:00.000+08:00

The first 100 days in office seems to be an important day for us to measure the performance of a Statesman or a Leader!

How should we measure the performance of a Statesman within a period of 100 days? What are the key perfomance indicators (KPIs') we are going to set to measure the performance of the Statesman? How and who should set the KPIs' together with the Statesman? Are the KPIs' accepted by the people and the Opposition party? Who should review the performance of the Statesman?

In my opinion, the critical challenges the Statesman will have to face are :

1. how to lead and manage the country so that the people can live in peace, harmony and with a healthy and wealthy life.

2. how to convince the Opposition party to adopt his "FORWARD" plan

3. how to clear the "backlogged challenges" of his predecessor

4. how to enhance the cultural aspects of the country

From what I understand, some large business organizations take about a month or two to prepare and finalise their business plan and budget (BPB). If a large organization needs to take one or two months to prepare and finalize the BPB, how much time will the statesman take to prepare, finalise and obtain approval for his "Forward" plan for his country? Moreover, I believe he also has to tackle the immediate challenges and issues as leave behind by his predecessor. If the statesman takes about a month(?!) to prepare his "Forward" plan, what should be the appropriate timeline for him to execute his plan to get the results? I do not believe he can get the results just immediately after he has implemented his plan! There will definitely be some hiccups along the way. The next important thing for the Statesman is making decision! The decision making process in a business organization is much simpler as compare to making a decision for a country's future.

I have heard of so many people criticizing the statesman actions. I am wondering, if we were to elect them as the statesman for their country, can they do a better job?

I believe we have to be sensible and logical towards this matter. If we are not in the Statesman's position, we do not know the full story of :

1. what had happened?

2. what had been done?

3. what results had been achieved?

4. what should be done next?

I believe it is easy to say than done. If we do not know all the details, it is unfair for us to start our criticizing and or insulting process!

I understand that Time is the essence for the statesman, however, I believe we must also be fair to provide a reasonable timeline for the statesman to perform!

The above is just my shallow view. Please share your valuable views. Thanking you in advance.

What Type Of Mindset Is This?

2009-05-09T19:01:00.000+08:00

I received this photograph from a friend recently. When I read the wordings in the photo, I was confused. I really do not know who the writer was scolding at? The toddler or the pig? I believe most of the readers will be scolding me this, " Definitely the writer is scolding the pig, Stupid!".

Well, who is the one that is killing us? The pig, the toddler or the virus?

I believe this is not the time for us to scold the whoever that is spreading the flu! Honestly, if the flu is really from the pig, do you think the pig did that intentionally? As all of us are aware, human mind is more developed and intelligent than an animal mind, things that the animals can't do, we human can do. Why can't we human do something to help our fellow mankind and the animals rather than to engage on the non value added process of scolding or releasing our anger towards the innocent animals?!`

Please please, please do not waste our valuable time to engage in the non value added activities. Moreover, getting angry can't help us saves our life! It can only help us to get more sickness such as hyperstension, stroke, heart attack, diabetes etc.. .

I believe all of us must play our part to save ourselves and the world. Look at the areas which we can help prevent the flu from spreading, look at our living condition, look at our lifetyle etc.. . If we are doing that, we are not only doing good for ourselves, we are also doing a meritorious deed to help other beings and animals to live in a hygienic environment!

The "Cure First Prevent Later" Mindset

2009-05-07T10:52:00.000+08:00

Where does the " Swine Flu "come from? The Pig? The Human?????? I believe this is an interesting question most of us would like to know the answer!

It is very common to see that whenever there is a flu outbreak, the first thing human being will do is to find a scapegoat. The most common scapegoats are the pig, the cow, the chicken , the rat, the cockroaches, the bacteria, the virus etc etc... . However, have we ever look at ourselves? What have we done to prevent the epidermic from happening? I believe some of us will say we can't do anything to stop all these happening. If we human being can't stop it from happening, can the pig, the cow and the rest of the insects or animals stop all these unwanted happenings? I believe human being will have the answer!

If our house are infected with cockroaches, termites, rats, snakes etc, is it the fault of the insects or the animals? Can the insects or small animals realize that what they have done were wrong? Can we take the preventive actions by keeping our house clean and hygienic so that all these insects or small animals do not have a slightest chance to "attack" our house?!

I came across a situation where hundreds of pigs were being culled during the outbreak of "pig flu" in our country many years back! I pity the pigs. I believe the pigs are also the victim in this circumstances. Firstly, the pigs were also a victim of the flu, secondly, they are being accused of spreading the flu to human being. I really hope to know who spreads the flu to the pigs?

I believe all of us are aware that "Prevention is better than Cure". However, what have we done? Have we taken any steps or preventive actions to keep clean and promote hygiene of our environment? What I can see is that most of us are sticking to the view that we can't do anything until and unless the problem arises.

It is really disheartening to see that mankind are busy developing medicine to delay human ageing, medicine to enhance male sexual performance, medicine to enhance beauty and sexiness of the ladies etc... but are unable to establish preventive actions to stop the unwanted happenings! Instead of focusing our attention on things that are just satisfying our sexual and sensual pleasure, I belive we should focus our attention on more meaningful things that can enhance the health and safety aspects of mankind.

Any sharing from anyone?

How Should We Celebrate Mother's Day?

2009-05-05T12:10:00.000+08:00

Many people celebrate Mother's Day. I am wondering why should we just pick one day in a year i.e less than 1% of a year to celebrate mother's day? Is this the right thing for us to do? For all those who are a mother, I believe you will have the answer of whether is this what you want from your children? I believe all the mothers will have the same answer! Please do not get me wrong that I am discouraging anyone to celebrate Mother's Day. I am just having the question of why can't we make our mother happy everyday rather than just one day in year.

As for me, although my mother is not physically with me anymore, her spirit and her guidance are with me everyday. I am confident that if I do good, avoid evils, purify my thoughts daily, my mother will be very happy. In fact, my mother did tell me before that, if all her children were to grow up with good discipline, good career and lead a happy married or non-married ( my mother is an open person and do not force all of us to get married! ) life, she will be more than happy. She can then leave the world happily without any regrets. This is the only request from her and the only thing that will make her happy!

To my beloved Mum, if your consciousness is still around with us, may I wish you well and happy always. We are very proud of you and we will continue to practise what you have guided us.

To all the readers of this post, please do spend more time with your parents. They will not be us forever. They have brought us to this beautiful world and provided us with food, shelter and proper guidance, we should be thankful to them and must try our best to make them happy everyday. I believe we should not just make them happy only on one specific day!

Bloggers Unite For Hunger And Hope

2009-04-27T15:08:00.000+08:00

Most of us are lucky that we can have proper meals everyday. Have we ever think of those who are not so lucky like us?

Do we know how many people die of hunger every year? How many adults and how many children die? Well, well, my next two important questions are :

1. Do We Want To Die Of Hunger?

2. Do We Want To See Our Younger Generation To Die Of Hunger?

I believe many of us will be saying that as a layman, we can't do much. This heavy task should be the responsibility of the World Leaders! Yes. I agreed to certain extend. If we were to just leave this task to the world leaders will it be effective? If there are just one thousand world leaders, how much can the world leaders contribute? If they do not eat at all, they can only help to save five thousand meals per day ( if they take five meals a day ) I believe if all of us in the world were to play our part in helping the world leaders to fight this "Hunger" war, the end results will definitely exceed our expectations! So, let us put all our hearts and souls together to support this excellent meritorious deed! Kindly refer : Bloggers Unite-Hunger & Hope

How do we play our part? I believe one of the areas we can look at as a lay person is the way we do "Celebrations". Be it festive celebration, birthday celebration, wedding celebration, celebration for achieving academic excellence etc..... . I believe for all these functions, large amount of food and drinks will be served. I had personally seen that large amount of food were thrown away after the celebration. Well, I do not mean we cannot celebrate all this functions with food, however, if we can celebrate all these functions together with those who are struggling to find food and reduce food wastage, not only it is a noble act which can give you "un-erasable" memories of happiness for life, at the same time, you are also helping the world leaders to make the world a better place for the unlucky one. Let us just take an example : If you were to spend US$1000.00 for a party, and because of your compassionate heart, you contribute or use part of the money e.g 10% of the total budget to buy some food for the poor. Don't you agree with me that this noble act will make you much more happier? As the saying goes, " What goes around comes around!". Who knows your generosity will be rewarded later with a bigger surprise!

Last but not least, let us pull all our mental energy together and wish :

"MAY ALL BEINGS BE WELL AND HAPPY ALWAYS!"

What A "Kia-su" ( Scared To Lose ) Mindset

2009-04-24T10:15:00.000+08:00

Two days ago, one of my neighbors asked me whether will I be interested to buy a bigger and more prestigious house? I asked her why? She told me that many people in our housing area has already shifted to the new housing estate next door. According to her, the houses at the new housing estate are bigger, more prestigious and it is a gated community! She also told me that the houses there are for wealthy people with certain status in the society. Anyone who stays there will be respected by the society.

In our so-called modern society, there are many people who have fallen into the trap of being scared of others measuring their wealth and status. In their mind, we must not let others to look down upon us. We must stay in a prestigious house, drive a luxurious car, enjoying good food at luxurious restaurants, playing luxurious games and with many maids serving the family so that others can look up upon us. Well, I believe there is nothing wrong to aim for that status if we can do it in a proper and legal manner.

I did come across a businessman who told me that we must buy prestigious house and luxurious car first so that others can look up upon us and trust us. He also said that image is very very important. According to him, we just need to pay for the upfront money and the rest we can get the loans from the financial institution. His view is that if we don't have the so called right image ( his perception towards image is different from mine ), we can't be in business. He also emphasized that people look at appearance to judge a person. I agreed with him to certain extend. To me, you can "blind" people with all these temporary wealth or assets ( I said temporary is because as long as you still haven't settled your loans, the assets does not belongs to you! ), however if we can't deliver what people expect you to deliver ( in terms of your products, services or payments ), do you think you can have a good image or reputation in the market? I have doubts over it.

This was what happen to Susan Boyle, one of the participants in the British Got Talent contest. Susan did not have an outstanding appearance when she was on the stage ( I salute her for showing the "Real Me" attitude! ). All the three judges were sceptical over her ability to sing. Well, I believe I do not need to highlight what happened to her next. All the media are busy publishing her story now.

Do we really need people to measure our own happiness? Do we mean the society must have people with this type of "Kia-su" ( scared to lose ) attitude only can progress? I would leave it to my beloved readers of this blog to give the answer. Everyone has a choice in life! We should not let others to control our own destiny!

What Is In The Mind Of A "Free-Thinker"?

2009-04-22T14:20:00.000+08:00

I have been hearing people saying that they are "Free-Thinkers". I do not know what is the actual meaning of "Free-Thinkers? Free to think? Think To Be Free? Or ............ ?

What would a "Free-Thinker" think at his last thought moment? As all of us are aware, life is not certain, death is certain, I am wondering how the "Free-Thinker" (since they are not Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Taoist or etc...) is going to leave this world? I do not mean they can't leave the world, however, I am thinking of the process of how they leave this world. For most of the religions, when a person died, they will pray to their GOD to bring the departed one to be with HIM. For other religions, they may perform the religious rite to transfer their good merits to the departed one so that he / she can be re-born in a higher ( better ) plane of existence. But for the "Free-Thinker", how?

For those with a religion, there will have some religious principles guide them in their life. However, for the "Free-Thinkers", what will be their guiding principle in life???

I have seen quite a no. of free thinkers do their prayer when they are in serious trouble. I do not know who they are praying to? Anyway, I do strongly believe that if a person has a religion, at least he has some guiding principles to refer to when he faces any critical challenges in his life. Also, his religion may also help him to "detoxify" his soul and or mind.

Agree? Disagree? Please share your valuable views. Thank you.

Can We Really Have "Eternal Life"?

2009-04-20T11:08:00.000+08:00

Many years back, some religious groups were aggressively promoting the message of we must strive towards "Eternal Life". I was puzzled over the saying. Can we really have eternal life? What is the definition of Eternal Life? Do they mean our "Soul" and or our "Mind"will live forever or the physical body will live forever?

Anyway, I do not know why should we live forever? Can living forever in the world makes us happy? I remember one of my friends told me this meaningful words, "It is not how long we stay in this world that's matter. It is how much good we did and how much fun we have by doing it that will make us happy. We are here for a good time and not a long time!". Agree or disagree? Please share your views.

Personally, I don't really understand the intention of the religious groups to promote the message of striving towards Eternal Life? However, I do notice that they don't use the same message now.

Anyway, I believe the Nature will take its own course. In order to balance up the nature, there is life and also there is Death! There is Sunrise and also there is Sunset............. . I believe no one can stop any of the natural processes! Can you?

Just hope to end this post by sharing this quotation, " The Past Is Gone, The Future Is Yet To Come, LIVE NOW! "

What An Innocent "Suicidal" Mindset

2009-04-19T15:08:00.000+08:00

Some people think that when they die, their problem will be solved automatically! However, when they die, what is dead is only their physical body. I do not know whether their problem will be solved automatically or not after their physical body is dead? Personally, I believe there are two parts of a human life, one part is our physical body, the other part is our soul and or our mind (for those who disagree with this view of mine, please share with me your view/s. Thanks in advance.). When our body is dead, I believe our soul and or our mind will definitely leave our dead body. Now, an interesting question is : can our soul or our mind die? Well, if our soul and or our mind can not die, then who can assure us that our problem will be solved automatically after we are dead?!

One more interesting question is : does the Divine Being ( for those who believe there is a Divine Being) encourage or allow this type of cruel and irresponsible act? If yes, then everything will be fine. If not, what will be the consequences? Will the consequences be worse than before he / she dies? As for those who believes in the Laws of Cause and Effect, do you think this person who has committed "killing of himself" can be reborn in a better plane of existence? I have doubt over it!

I believe that we should leave this beautiful world with a serene physical body and peaceful soul and or mind. I do not believe any of us would like to leave this world with an ugly body with widely open mouth, open eyes and a confused mind. Agree?

Anyway, if we don't love our own life, who will love our life? We must be thankful and value every minute and every second of our existence in this beautiful world!

Do good, avoid evils, purify our Soul and or our Mind. If we can do that, not only we will leave the world without any regrets, we will also make the world a better place to stay!

Last but not least, what do we expect to see in our eulogy during the final journey of our life? Do you want others to remember you as a bad person who has done much harm to the society or a good person who had done much good to the society? We have a choice!

How Could a "Comparing" Mindset Help?

2009-04-18T23:07:00.000+08:00

I just love the meaningful sentences in this beautiful photo which I received from a long lost friend recently.

In fact, this is a reality of life. Most people just like to compare their life with others. Some of them eventually landed up in the state of mental anguish.

Can comparing our life with others make us happy????

Real Story No.1

Recently, my aunty told me that she has already shifted to her new two and a half storey semi-detached house which her son bought one year ago. Many other relatives was admiring her for staying in such a comfortable new house. However, what I came to know is that since the day they shifted in to the new house, she doesn't have much chance to see her son and daughter in law. Previously, when they were staying at a condominium, she can see them everyday. Now, her son and daughter in law will straight go up to their bedroom which is on the top floor of the house after they have come home. When they have gone up, they will not come down as they say it is too tiring for them to climb up and down the stair again. As for my old aunty who has knee problem, she also can't afford to climb the staircase too much. She have to wait for them to come down only got chance to see them.

Well, for those who are admiring her, do they know what my aunty is facing now. She feel that her son and her are staying very far apart now. She feels very lonely and no one to talk to. Is she happy? Based on "surface or appearance", my aunty should be lucky and happy, however, the type of suffering she has to go through no one knows. She told me she has to take care of her grand daughter and also take care of the house. She does not have a maid. Personally, I do not admire her life at all.

Real Story No.2

One of my childhood friend is an illegal money lender. Currently, he is staying in a bungalow in a gated community. He has a driver, a bodyguard and two maids in the house. Many people admire him for being so rich. However, he told me he is living in the shadow of fear everyday. He scares that people may plan to kill him as his subordinates used to harrass those people who can't repay them the money, he scares that people may kidnap his children, he scares that robbers may rob his family so on and so for. Based on external view, many people will say that he is a very lucky man. However, no one knows what type of mental torture he has gone through.

I believe we are not born in this world to compare our life with others, moreover, by comparing our life with other, it does not help us to lead a better life! So, we need to be ourself and live our life to the fullest and most importantly, DONT COMPARE!!!

Agree? Disagree? Please share your view. Thanks.

What a "Pitiful" Mindset?!

2009-04-15T22:50:00.000+08:00

I was not surprised when someone told me Suzie, an ex-colleague of mine has been admitted to hospital because of liver and kidney problem recently. Suzie is a fanatic towards slimming and anti-ageing products. Personally, I salute Suzie's courage towards trying all the types of newly invented slimming or anti-ageing products. She will buy and try the newly invented slimming or anti-ageing product without second thought if someone tells her the new product can make her slimmer and young! The best human "guinea pig" I have ever come across! However, I totally disagree with her way of managing her health. Suzie is also very choosy over the food she takes. I do not know whether does she really understand the word "Balanced Diet"? I also wonder whether she can understand the two words, "Deficiency" and "Overdose"?!

I do agree that there is nothing wrong if a person likes to be pretty and have a slim figure. However, if it is at the cost of our health or life, I wouldn't advise anyone to try it.

It is no doubt that we need good "maintenance" program for our physical body, however, if the program is going to go against the Law Of Nature, do you think it is worth for us to pursue with it?

From the picture, we can see that from birth to old age and to the the last day of our life, it is a complete natural process. If we do not believe it is a natural process and we insist to go against it, what will be the consequences we have to face? Just take an example of 70 year old lady who goes for "modification ( either through intake of new drugs or newly invented equipment! )" of her face so that she can look like a young lady. Yes, I believe with the current advanced technology, a person can modify the whole face to look young and dress like a young lady, however, what about other parts of the body? Face like young girl but other muscles of the body are sagging, what would be the consequences like? Organs in the body are also aging and perhaps some has started to mal-function...What a suffering world? Hahaha........ .

Just take another example : what would happen if the 70 year old lady were to allow Nature to take its own course and age gracefully, do you think she will be more acceptable or respectable by the younger generation?

I believe there are two major parts of a human life, one part is our physical body, the other part is our way of thinking and experience. How would the society view a "modified young face" with an elderly man mentality? Overgrown young man or .......?

Let's face the "Reality"! I believe if we are mindful on what we are eating, we will have less worry about any sickness, if we have less worry, we would be more happy. It is through happiness that a person's face would be more serene and radiant!

I came across the below "Reflection Before Taking Food" verses in one of the retreats which I had attended sometime ago. I would like to share with all of you. I believe that if all of us were to follow the verses accordingly, we will lead a more healthy life and also look more radiant and serene. Whoever hope to give it a try, please recite the verses slowly with full concentration and full understanding! Please "Pause" and absorb the sentence before you go to the next sentence.

May All Of You Be Well And Happy Always!

" Worth Following Award"

2009-04-15T13:43:00.000+08:00

I am so glad to receive the above award from Anish of Actuate Life. This is really motivating especially to a new kid in the "blog"! Hahaha.... . Thank you so much Anish.

This award is given to blogs that you would highly recommend to other readers and the rules are as follows:

Give this award to three of your favorite blogs. Choose ones you make a point of reading as often as possible!

When you nominate them you have to write a short description of the blog (just a few sentences) and why you nominated that blog.

Link to each of your choices as well as the blog that nominated you. Spread the love!

Well, I would present the first award to Anish of Actuate Life, http://actuatelife.blogspot.com/. Anish is a good writer. His blog covers a wide range of topics which relates to our daily life.

The second award goes to Jean of Lazy Mum -Yummy Bites, http://jean-easy2cook.blogspot.com/. In her blog, she shares with us her fast, economical and easy to cook recipes. Her recipes are great for us especially in this economic slowdown situation.

The third award goes to Renee of "the-retirement-road-map.com", http://www.the-retirement-road-map.com. Renee's wondeful blog provides a lot of valuable information on how elderly people should prepare for the "second half" of their life.

Congratulations to all of you!

A " Loss " Mindset

2009-04-14T22:22:00.000+08:00

I am really curious to know what would happen if Jesus Christ, Prophet Muhammad and Siddharta Gautama were to live in the world now? Some of the questions which always linger on my mind are :

1. What would be the critical and important sermon they would preach if they are living together in the world now?

2. What would they think about the current world situation?

3. Would they be asking their followers and disciples to respect other religions, spread " LOVE " towards other religions?

4. Will they use their great compassion to "melt" the Devil and Demon hearts?

5. Will they insist their disciples and followers to destroy or kill those who do not have the same belief?

6. What would the Divine Being do if human beings continue to be "blinded" by the evil thoughts?

7. Will there be an end to this "Good vs Evil" war?

8. By sending those who have committed misconduct to a "SUFFERING" place sufficient enough to "rehabilitate" them?

9. What would the Merciful Divine Being do to save the mankind?

10. Will the Divine Being just let the unfavorable things to happen as they consider there is no way or they should not rescue mankind?

11. Will the difference in idealogy of the religions hinder mankind to work together for a better tomorrow fo mankind?

I believe all these questions are REAL! If different religion were to try their best to fight to be on top of the others, I believe the world will be in a mess! As we are aware, some religious extremists may even institute a war which will cause the killing of many human life just to show people that their religion is more supreme than the other!

Will the Divine Being "encourage" killing of human just to show others that they are more supreme than the others? Does the Divine Being has a way to stop all these unnecessary acts? How would the Divine Being handle those who have committed the misconduct? Destroy them? How to destroy them?

Some may say we must not question the Divine Being ( I do not have the slightest intention to do so!) or we, as human will not be able to understand the holy act of the Divine Being. However, if the merciful Divine Being does not want to help mankind to stop all these unnecessary acts, can mankind stop these acts by themselves?

The above are just my silly thoughts, it should not be treated as an insult to any religion. I believe I am not the only person in this world that is having all these questions in mind.

Anyway, I strongly believe that religion does play an important role to make our world a better place to stay!

I expect to receive many comments for my above post. I am open to any constructive views. Do share your views.

A "Holy War" Mindset

2009-04-10T20:19:00.000+08:00

Whenever I heard of the word "Holy War", the below questions will immediately come to my mind:

1. What is that so "Holy" about "War"?

2. Who has created this word "Holy War"?

3. If there is anything stated in the Holy Scripture about "Holy War", did we interpret the meaning correctly?

Whenever there is a war between two countries, I believe both countries would be very suspicious over one another. Their peoples' minds will be full of desire and hatred! It is a "WIN-LOSE" situation, i.e either your country is going to win or my country is going to win! With this type of focused(?!) mindset, I believe they will surely involve their most advanced war equipments in the war. They will not have mercy but to kill just for the benefits of getting what they want! Is "KILLING" a "HOLY" act? Innocent people died, people lost their families ........and so on. Is this considered " HOLY "?

I do not believe the word "Holy War"is created by the Divine Being! I believe it comes from the mind of the Human Being! Well, any human being with a sound mind should know, if the Divine Being is promoting "Love" and " Peace " on this Earth, how could they instigate Human Beings to engage in a cruel war?!

I do believe that we, Human Beings really need to understand the real or actual meaning of the word "Holy War"( if there is any! ) as stated in the Holy Scripture.

My personal view is that holy war is a war within ourselves where we have to eliminate or neutralise all our defilements ( evil or unwholesome thought such as : killing people just to get what we want, robbing people wealth, engage in sexual misconduct, cheating people, taking drugs etc ....! ) in our mind. I consider this as holy war because it does not hurt anyone. Moreover if everyone were to do good, avoid evil and cultivate their mind , the world would be a better place to stay! As all of us are aware, we have to go through some difficult processes to strengthen our mind, however, the long lasting effect after the process is that your mind will be like an unshaken rock.

From birth till the last day of our life, we are engaged in "civil war" within ourselves all the time. Why should we create another physical War again in the world? I believe it would be better for us to spend our valuable time to do more constructive work which can help us to make the world a better place to stay!

Anyone want to share your views?

A " Wondering " Mind!

2009-04-06T22:43:00.000+08:00

I remembered when I was young, I was asked to recite the below verses during our Bible classes:

" Our Father In Heaven, Holy Be Thy Name, Your Kingdom Comes, Your Will Be Done On Earth As In Heaven, Give Us Today Our Daily Bread, Forgive Us Our Sins As We Forgive Those Who Sin Against Us. Do not Bring Us To The Test, But Deliver Us From Evils!" ( Please forgive me if I have made any un-intentionally errors 0n the verses! )

I just can't emphasize enough of the words which are highlighted in RED. These are extremely good verses if we were to follow and practise it accordingly.

The world will be a better place to stay if all of us were to practise it sincerely (from the bottom of our Heart)! We must learn how to "FORGIVE" and "FORGET"! This is a very powerful verse which can help us to stop the Wars!

I also wish to highlight this meaningful sentence, "Maaf Zahir Dan Batin ( Please Forgive Our Wrong Doing Which We Had Committed Both Physically And Mentality ), which the Muslim in our country will say to their parents on the first day when they are celebrating their completion of their Fasting ( Holy ) month. If we can follow this meaningful verse as to seek for forgiveness for our wrong doing and ensure that we won't commit the same wrong doing again, the world will have lesser human problem! Don't you think this is beautiful?

All these beautiful guidance can be found in all the religious teachings. Why are we still busy to go round and round to search for an answer to end the human misery???

An "Unfair" Mindset!

2009-04-06T14:42:00.000+08:00

My neighbour's husband told her not to buy and cook brinjal now. Her husband told her brinjal is very expensive now. I was taken back by her husband's statement. As I know, this neighbour of mine is a very thrifty lady whereas her husband like to spend lots of money drinking with his friends every night. Most of the time, he will go out alone in the evening and let his wife stays at home alone. What on earth could he give his wife's this type of instruction? He can spend lots of money drinking with his friends every night ( sometime till midnight! ) and he doesn't allow his wife to buy and cook her favorite food just because the price of brinjal has increased by 3% per kilogramme. I believe he also doesn't know brinjal is a favorite food of his wife!

There are a few good questions for us to think :

1. How does this husband value his wife?

2. How many kilogramme of brinjal can his wife eat per meal? How much will it costs?

3. How many cans or bottles of beer will he drink per night? What will be the total cost of all the beers? As a matter of fact, I have seen him drinking more than a dozen cans per night!

4. Is he fair to his wife?

According to her husband, he will not be able to live in this world if he doesn't have friends! All his friends are good drinkers!

I believe there are many this type of "self-centred" persons in the world. This type of person can forgo his family and just to be with all his “drinking" friends!

There was one incident where this beloved husband of my neighbour had a bad experience when his friend "persuaded" him to work in foreign country with a sunbstantial compensation package. Without any hesitation and discussion with his wife, he went straight to that country. After he has gone there, he discovered that he would be working alone there. He was so lonely that every night he called his wife to tell her that he wants to come home! Now, he is back at home, however, he has forgotten his "suffering" and has reverted to his old habit! He is spending even more time with all his "drinking" friends than his beloved wife now!

I am wondering, if he is strucked with a critical illness one day, who will take care of him? His friends or his wife?

What type of "UNFAIR" mindset does he has? When happy hour time, he will be with all his friends and neglect his wife! When he is having problem, he will look for his beloved wife!

A "Simply Delegate" Mindset

2009-04-05T13:52:00.000+08:00

This is another "interesting but sad " story which was published in the newspaper lately.

I sympathize with all the busy parents who do not have time to be with their children.

I fully agreed with what the writer Peter Chong said, that is : "Maid may be good in doing household chores but it is not her duty to bring up your children. ....."

A few good and critical questions for us to reflect :

1. Do you want to see how your children grow up?

2. Do you want to play a part to help your children to grow up?

3. What would be the conseqeunces if you "delegate" your parental duties and responsibilities to the maid?

4. If you were to "delegate" all your parental duties and responsibilities to your maid, can you expect your children to be close or respect or love you?

5. How would you feel if your children were to call your maid "Mum or Dad" and call you "Aunty or Uncle"?

I am particularly concerned over the first sentence of paragraph 5, i.e " The young girl always had her way and the maid had no power to stop her". Personally, I have seen and heard many young children telling their maids that they are not their parents, they don't have the right to control them!!! Maybe their parents have told their beloved children before that their maids have no authority or right to control them. Should we leave it to the children to grow up themselves without giving them proper guidance in life?

Nowaday, many parents hope that their children would be a professional like doctor, engineer, accountant or..... one day . However, how many parents really spend some quality time to help their children to achieve the goals?

One of our family friends told me this story before. He said he was asking his young daughter what she wants to be a few days ago? He was expecting his daughter to give him a reply she wants to be at least a Teacher. However, he said he was extremely disappointed when his daughter told him she wants to be a maid one day. He asked her why, she replied, "Aunty said to be a maid is better, no need to go to work outside. It is an easy job and also can sleep in the afternoon when Papa and Mama not around! Hahaha.......... . An innocent mind that has been influenced by the maid. Do you want your child's innocent mind to be influenced by your maid?

Please do not get me wrong that I am looking down upon the maid's career. I respect the maid's job ( a job not many of us would want to do! ). I also understand that not everyone can be a doctor, engineer, teacher or....... . What I am trying to highlight is that if we hope to see our child to be a professional one day, we can't "delegate" our duties and responsibilities to our maid!

Another story was about Kelvin, one of my ex-colleague, he told me he was extremely sad when he came back from his overseas assignment one morning and his son, a toddler told his maid that "uncle" is back. As he is a Regional Sales Manager, his job requires him to travel frequently around the region. Most of the time, he is not around in the house. Well, what can I say to him? I only can sympathize him as he is a man who won't listen to advice!

Last but not least, I would like to invite all parents to ponder over the above critical questions and come out with a plan on what you and your spouse should do next!

What Type Of Family Values Do We Want?

2009-04-02T12:03:00.000+08:00

I saw this article in the newspaper one week ago. Anyone disagree with the headline? As for me, I fully agreed with what Dr.M.A.Nair said. I salute Dr. Nair 's wisdom.

Have we ever come across any kids who leave their parents because they are poor? So far, I have haven't come across any incident like this!

I have come across many incidences where parents are just focusing on providing the " material love" to their children, and eventually their children are not close to them ( their children just provide the financial aids to them ) when they retired. Now, they are complaining that :

1. They are very lonely after their retirement and no one to talk to

2. They don't have chance to meet with their grandchildren. According to them their children were too busy with their work and do not have time to bring their grandchildren to see them!

They are extremely unhappy over what they considered as "un-grateful" act of their children! Some even said that if they know their children will be so un-grateful, they would ask their spouse to abort it! I was stunned when I heard that!

However, this is what their children said: "What our parents want? We have already given them the money, what they want some more? With the money, they can go and buy whatever they want! They really don't understand us! We are very busy and not like them - "pensioners". They don't need to work, but we need to work and survive! Previously, when we were young, we also hardly see their face! When we wake up inthe morning, they had already gone to work. When we go to sleep at night, they still hadn't come back. We seldom have chance to talk to them! Whenever we encountered problem and need they advice, they are not there to help us also!!!" Based on what their children said, we can see that their children want their parents concern, attention and love when they were young, but their parents were just too busy with their work. This has cast a deep impression into their mind till they are adults now!!!

Now, what went wrong? The parents are looking for "Heart" love from their children. Whereas the children were thinking that providing "material love" to them are more than sufficient!

Parents, beware!!! It seems that our life will "reverse" back to the young age when we grow old. It would be too late and too painful for us to discover that we did not provide the right thing right to the children i.e "Parental Love" and NOT "Material Love"! when they were young.

We have to ask oursleves : What type of family life do you want when you grow old? With lots and lots of material gains and no family love and bonding? Or with moderate material gains and have plenty of family love and bonding?! The decision is in our hands!

Which One Should We Detoxify First? Mind or Body?

2009-03-31T11:35:00.000+08:00

It is quite common for us to come across advertisement on "DETOX" program nowaday. Generally, all these detox programs only focus on "detoxification" of our physical body and not our Mind. Well, I believe there is nothing wrong for us to detoxify our body if it is under the advice and proper guidance of a qualified medical professional.

Now, the question is : What about our Mind?! Do we need to detoxify our Mind? As we all know, Mind is the fore-runner of all worldly things, if we do not detoxify our Mind, what will happen to this beautiful world?

If our Mind is under tremendous stress, can we have clear thoughts? When we are having mental stress, we may lost control of what we are eating and also the quantity that we are consuming? I do come across people suffer from this " Depressed, eat and grow fat! " unhealthy behavior. Some may even lost control of what they do? Since their mind are uncleared, emotion will take over the control of their physical action! Just imagine how dangerous it is if our physical action is controlled by our emotion instead of a clear mind! All these " un-mindful " actions will eventually lead us to all types of "Suffering"! Well, I also strongly believe that mental stress is the main cause of all worldly sickness and human suffering!

Lastly, a very good questions for us to ponder :- Since MIND is the fore-runner of all wordly things, should we detoxify our Mind first or should we detox our body first?

Is this The Right Mindset?

2009-03-30T22:32:00.000+08:00

I saw this interesting phrase in one of the advertisement recently. I was wondering what does that mean?

1. Do they mean ladies who are without perfect and full assets will not look sexy and feel confident? Or

2. Do they mean ladies will only look sexy and feel confident with perfect and full asset?

3. What do they mean by perfect and full assets?

What is the linkage between "sexy" and "confident"? I think ( my thinking only! I may be wrong! Please correct me if I am wrong!) this phrase has created a wrong view for the ladies? I am aware that some ladies risk their life and pay a hefty sum of money to go for "modification" of their assets! Some of them have to face the consequences of landed up in the hospital because of complications. I salute their "Courage" to go for the "modification" process but I do not appreciate their act!

Just a piece of sharing, I have seen ladies without perfect and full asset but they are the CEO of some big corporations! For this type of cases, how do we measure the "confidence" of the lady CEOs'? I have also seen ladies without perfect and full asset but they are sexy models. What does that mean?

Ladies, let's be back to the basic! What is the actual function of your assets? Is it for beautification, exhibition or some other more meaningful and wholesome purpose! Why should the ladies go for "modification" to convert their "Natural" asset to a "Semi-Natural (artificial)" asset? Unless it is for medical or " life and death " reason or else do you think it is worth for the ladies to spend their money to convert their "Natural" asset to a "Semi-Natural" asset?

Generally, I do not agree that " Sexy " , " Confident " and " Perfect and Full Asset "are linked in any way!

What are your views?